Yay! I finally bought my own series of Twilight books yesterday from Popular bookstore. I was reading my niece's copies previously and since now I have my own books, I can read the whole series all over again, and again and again till I get bored with it.
Meanwhile, I can't wait for New Moon to hit the cinema in Nov 2009.
Guess I'm gonna ignore someone once I start reading again. Sorry honey...... :P
I am so in love with da Vamps!!! I think the fever will not go away so soon.... hahaha
Sunday, May 24, 2009
Sunday, May 17, 2009
Happiness is a CHOICE
Well, many people will argue back that it is easier said than done but believe me, it is achievable.
Everyone has their ups & downs in life, so am I. I have been through quite a lot in my coming to 33 years of life. Of course I have nothing to be compared to the life my grandparents or my parents lived, and I certainly can't compare myself to the slump dogs or those super rich people like Oprah Winfrey. Nevertheless, I have my own unique life story and it is certainly mine to live. :)
As much as we want everything to be the way we want it, many things are just beyond our control. We can’t control the condition of the traffic, how others perceive us, how much our employer should pay us (though it would be nice, hahaha), how do we look and many more.
When tragedy or something bad happens, our very natural-human-emotion will trigger the sadness and anger. We feel that we are being mistreated, our life sucks big time, our job is horrible, our wife/girlfriend/husband/boyfriend is not as good as others, and basically nothing seems right in our ‘pathetic’ life.
We start comparing and thinking the grass is greener on the other side and we would start planning our sweet escape. Again, like I said, not everything can be the way we want it to be so while some people are luckily enough to get out or get away from their current so called ‘bad/terrible’ situation, some poor souls are not as fortunate.
Take our work for instant, work is work, whether it is a lot or little, work will never change. We need to put food on our table and we are paid to do the job in order to earn our bread, so like it or not, all of us are in a way oblige to our employers and to at least commit our time and effort to a certain expectant level.
But as long as there is ‘human being’ involved, earning a living is not as straight forward or as plain and simple as it seems apart from the job challenges. Because, people come in different packages and that makes things complicated.
Now…. We are stuck in a situation and with people that we do not like and to make things worst, we have no where to run to due to our circumstances at that moment of time.
So what we do or how we react? We are unhappy, de-motivated and we are stuck so the only natural things would happen are our job performance is deteriorating, we grumble a lot on small little things (which we used to just brush it off with a smirk), works pressure is growing on us, everything and everyone seems like against us. Some of us may break down and totally lose it at work or some might cry & suffer in silence. Of course I have been thru similar situation and I am of course the cry & suffer in silence type. Only my hubby knows it and he is the only comfort I could turn to.
However, over the years, I realise that we don’t always have the rainbow, the sunshine and the sweet candies in our lives. Life will always be unfair to many people and there’s nothing much we can do to change that. We have to learn how to make the best out of what we have by tackling each different situation with an open mind and be indifference towards certain things in our life. I’m not saying not to care about what’s going on but learn to be indifferent so that nothing could hurt us and bother us as easily.
It has come to my senses that since we can’t run and we certainly can’t hide, instead of doing the job or living our life with constant whining, tears, anger and oh-pity-me-I-am-so-unlucky attitude, we might as well do the job and live our life with laughter, peace and positive attitude coz believe me, you will find that things are not as bad after all and life ain’t that bad if you stop your self pitying s*** and focus on the bigger and more important things in life.
It is not easy and sometimes it is really hard to control the emotion and not let the situation or people affect us but each time, I’ll try my best to calm myself down by telling myself whatever I am facing it is nothing compare to the people in third world countries because no matter how bad things may seems at least I still have food to eat, a roof to live in, people who love & care for me and many other wonderful things going on in my life. Misfortunes and unhappiness are just part of our life and we shouldn’t spoil our lives just because of some stains and flaws.
We have to look at our life at a macroscopic way and stop harping on the microscopic things and prolong our unhappiness. Life is way too precious and too short to be wasted like this.
We can always choose to indulge in sadness or we can choose to live with happiness and make peace with others and especially ourselves.
Happiness is a choice. That’s what I’ve chosen.
What about you?
Everyone has their ups & downs in life, so am I. I have been through quite a lot in my coming to 33 years of life. Of course I have nothing to be compared to the life my grandparents or my parents lived, and I certainly can't compare myself to the slump dogs or those super rich people like Oprah Winfrey. Nevertheless, I have my own unique life story and it is certainly mine to live. :)
As much as we want everything to be the way we want it, many things are just beyond our control. We can’t control the condition of the traffic, how others perceive us, how much our employer should pay us (though it would be nice, hahaha), how do we look and many more.
When tragedy or something bad happens, our very natural-human-emotion will trigger the sadness and anger. We feel that we are being mistreated, our life sucks big time, our job is horrible, our wife/girlfriend/husband/boyfriend is not as good as others, and basically nothing seems right in our ‘pathetic’ life.
We start comparing and thinking the grass is greener on the other side and we would start planning our sweet escape. Again, like I said, not everything can be the way we want it to be so while some people are luckily enough to get out or get away from their current so called ‘bad/terrible’ situation, some poor souls are not as fortunate.
Take our work for instant, work is work, whether it is a lot or little, work will never change. We need to put food on our table and we are paid to do the job in order to earn our bread, so like it or not, all of us are in a way oblige to our employers and to at least commit our time and effort to a certain expectant level.
But as long as there is ‘human being’ involved, earning a living is not as straight forward or as plain and simple as it seems apart from the job challenges. Because, people come in different packages and that makes things complicated.
Now…. We are stuck in a situation and with people that we do not like and to make things worst, we have no where to run to due to our circumstances at that moment of time.
So what we do or how we react? We are unhappy, de-motivated and we are stuck so the only natural things would happen are our job performance is deteriorating, we grumble a lot on small little things (which we used to just brush it off with a smirk), works pressure is growing on us, everything and everyone seems like against us. Some of us may break down and totally lose it at work or some might cry & suffer in silence. Of course I have been thru similar situation and I am of course the cry & suffer in silence type. Only my hubby knows it and he is the only comfort I could turn to.
However, over the years, I realise that we don’t always have the rainbow, the sunshine and the sweet candies in our lives. Life will always be unfair to many people and there’s nothing much we can do to change that. We have to learn how to make the best out of what we have by tackling each different situation with an open mind and be indifference towards certain things in our life. I’m not saying not to care about what’s going on but learn to be indifferent so that nothing could hurt us and bother us as easily.
It has come to my senses that since we can’t run and we certainly can’t hide, instead of doing the job or living our life with constant whining, tears, anger and oh-pity-me-I-am-so-unlucky attitude, we might as well do the job and live our life with laughter, peace and positive attitude coz believe me, you will find that things are not as bad after all and life ain’t that bad if you stop your self pitying s*** and focus on the bigger and more important things in life.
It is not easy and sometimes it is really hard to control the emotion and not let the situation or people affect us but each time, I’ll try my best to calm myself down by telling myself whatever I am facing it is nothing compare to the people in third world countries because no matter how bad things may seems at least I still have food to eat, a roof to live in, people who love & care for me and many other wonderful things going on in my life. Misfortunes and unhappiness are just part of our life and we shouldn’t spoil our lives just because of some stains and flaws.
We have to look at our life at a macroscopic way and stop harping on the microscopic things and prolong our unhappiness. Life is way too precious and too short to be wasted like this.
We can always choose to indulge in sadness or we can choose to live with happiness and make peace with others and especially ourselves.
Happiness is a choice. That’s what I’ve chosen.
What about you?
Tuesday, May 12, 2009
Alone...
What do you like or usually do when you are alone?
I hardly have the chance to spend time alone after married. No doubt my hubby do travel every now and then but most of his trips fall on weekdays thus to me that doesn't count as I'm working during weekdays myself and most of the time I would be so spent after a long day work so I don't really have the chance to enjoy the 'alone' time. You know basically the same routine, go home, shower, dinner, rest for a while and hit the sack.
Hmmm... don't get me wrong....I don't like to be left alone all the time and when my hubby travel, I do miss him a lot. However, it is real nice to have some time to just spend it with myself once in a while and that opportunity is rare.
Tomorrow my hubby will be travelling to Bangkok and back on this Sunday evening. So put aside the 3 working days, basically I'll have the whole weekend all by myself. There was an initial plan to go to Taiping or Ipoh with my colleagues for a 2D/1N trip but it is cancelled due to some unforeseen circumstances. So now I'm left with a weekend without my hubby and I have no idea what should I do.
I'm contemplating of going to Karaoke, book sales, stay home & read or hangout with friends. I can't really make up my mind yet but then again I can be quite lazy sometimes so I might just stay home & bury myself in all the books I've bought while waiting for him to come home. :)
Whatever it is I should spend this weekend wisely and not waste it by just lazing around and do nothing like sitting at home and Facebook-ing. :P
I hardly have the chance to spend time alone after married. No doubt my hubby do travel every now and then but most of his trips fall on weekdays thus to me that doesn't count as I'm working during weekdays myself and most of the time I would be so spent after a long day work so I don't really have the chance to enjoy the 'alone' time. You know basically the same routine, go home, shower, dinner, rest for a while and hit the sack.
Hmmm... don't get me wrong....I don't like to be left alone all the time and when my hubby travel, I do miss him a lot. However, it is real nice to have some time to just spend it with myself once in a while and that opportunity is rare.
Tomorrow my hubby will be travelling to Bangkok and back on this Sunday evening. So put aside the 3 working days, basically I'll have the whole weekend all by myself. There was an initial plan to go to Taiping or Ipoh with my colleagues for a 2D/1N trip but it is cancelled due to some unforeseen circumstances. So now I'm left with a weekend without my hubby and I have no idea what should I do.
I'm contemplating of going to Karaoke, book sales, stay home & read or hangout with friends. I can't really make up my mind yet but then again I can be quite lazy sometimes so I might just stay home & bury myself in all the books I've bought while waiting for him to come home. :)
Whatever it is I should spend this weekend wisely and not waste it by just lazing around and do nothing like sitting at home and Facebook-ing. :P
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