You Are Not Fat!

It is funny that there are a lot of girls came up to me and tell me how slim I am and they wish to be like me. And yes, this is nothing new as I have blogged about this topic a few times before.

There are times people who made those comments are 'fleshier' than me and I can totally understand their frustration of wanting to lose a few pounds and find it difficult to do so. While some might not say it out loud but some were really forward by asking me, "Do you eat?". Hmmm... what kind of question is that?!?!? To set the record straight. I eat and I can never go on diet coz I have gastric problem since very young age. How I maintain and be this slim? I really have no idea as I really don't make much effort to keep fit. Somebody gonna shoot me, but I am not showing off. It is what it is.

But most of the time, I have girls who are either as slim as me if not thinner, telling me that I look so slim in my pictures and look even slimmer in person. It is funny how we often can't see our physique and you know we can never trust the mirror. No, seriously, we can never trust what we see in the mirror because there are mirrors that make us look either thinner or fatter than we really are.

This happen many years ago, a friend of mine was in the ladies with me and we were standing next to each other in front of a full length mirror. She turned to me and looked herself in the mirror and she asked, am I as slim as you?. For the matter of fact, I took a look at the mirror of our reflections and indeed we are about the same size, so I told her, yes. And she said, but why can't I see myself as slim as you. So I told her it is very normal as we human can never see ourselves clearly externally. I told her to look at both our reflections in the mirror carefully, do we look almost the same size? Yes, she said. Then you are as slim as me, I said. :D

So girls.... stop saying yourselves fat when you are not. If  all the people who met you say that you are slim, then you are. Stop arguing and complaining that you are fat. Especially for people who are really 'meaty' and haven't been very successful in shedding some extra fat, it is really annoying. :P

Fat or thin.... I guess majority are just the same..... we all have body issues in some way. The fat ones know that they are fat, the skinny ones think that they are fat. Hmmmm......

Trouble Face

I told my hubby yesterday, '...sometimes, I wish to have a more commonly likable face' because since young, a lot of people don't like me and even family and relatives also used to preferred my younger sister or my other cousins simply because I don't have this 'likable' or pretty face like others.

I had a lot of sad sad memories from my childhood and I must say as much as I try to forget and move on but the damage was done. No matter how much time has passed, my self esteem was wounded and there will always be a scar there no matter how faint it has become over time.

Even now as I have grown up, I know there are still people dislike me just because of how I look and perhaps this is what people called 'Yeong Soi' in Cantonese (some one who has an unlikable/unpleasant features).

It is funny to know that people often find me looking fierce and not approachable by my look but most of the time I always smile at people. Perhaps it's my serious look when I don't smile that scares people. But I also believe it has something to do with my facial structure. People who has strong/square jawline often give people a very hard/fierce/masculine impression.

Maybe I should go and saw off my jaw bones to make my face looks smaller and more feminine. Should I... should I? :P

But honestly, I just hope to have a healthy, smooth and clear complexion. Due to some internal health issues, I have been battling with acne problems for years. As I approach 40's, the problems don't seem to be lesser, in fact my body is getting more and more sensitive and I have to be extra careful with what I consume and watch my stress level. Because if I'm not careful, it would aggregate my acne problems and I'll have to start all over again to combat the acne. :(

All I want is a problem free skin.... :( Can I have it..... please?

36

No. That is not my breasts size, and how I wish. :P

I just turned 36 yesterday and I am soon approaching 40 in 4 years time.

I always love birthday but not because of the presents. In fact, for many years now my hubby is the only one who gives me presents for my birthdays. I love birthday because it simply means that I am still very much ALIVE. :D

Even though I grow older on each birthday, I do not feel sad. On the contrary, I feel very happy. This is the reason why I never hide my age. It is never a secret for my case. Because I always believe that, age is just a number. And I am proud to say that I am one of the lucky one who have been able to age gracefully. :) One thing I am very certain is that besides the genetic factor, our outlooks toward life and aging would influence how we age. That's is why I always perceive aging in a positive manner and be happy-go-lucky all the time.

Not forgetting all my love ones who celebrating my birthday with me every year and also all the birthday wishes I received from everyone. Each birthday wish represents a Blessing and I do cherish and appreciate each and every one of it. :)

I'm certainly looking forward for many more birthdays to come so that I could grow old with my love ones. :)

Goodbye Glasses

So this year the birthday present I got from my beloved hubby is.... Vision without Glasses. :)

He sent me for the LASIK surgery last Saturday and I'm still on the road of recovery.

It certainly feel great getting to see things clearly without any aid, especially the moment I'm awake and open my eyes in the morning.... everything is so CLEAR!

It will take a while for my eyes to have the actual corrected power and it depends on how fast my own eyes heal. Though now my vision is still not that sharp and quite blurry on my left eye, but it is definitely way much better than pre-surgery. :)

Totally loving this gift and a big THANK YOU to my darling! :D

Fussy Babies

Honestly? People who are always so fussy and always seems to have issues with everything should be the one who make the decision and choose what they want to do, eat or go.

Don't ask someone else to decide and after that person tried his or her best to find something that could suit everyone comfortably especially the fussy one and ended up getting all the comment like, "isn't the other one better?".

Don't you realized people have better things to do but somehow they chose to spend a bit more time to do research and try to find out the best option to suits you especially??? And with you always like to give a somewhat negative remark at the end??? It is actually very hurtful. :(

Next time, the fussy ones should just decide it themselves and the rest just follow. End of story.

Telepathy, God's Whisper or Coincident?

What is Telepathy? It is a form of communication between minds by some means other than sensory perception.

Then what's with the God's whispering? Perhaps God helped to convey my thoughts to someone.

Now..... you must be thinking what am I trying to say here with all the mumbo jumbo above.

Ok, I have many encounters through out the years and I'm sure not the only one who experiencing it. There are times when your mind thinking of something or wanted to tell someone about your desire on certain thing, but in the end you didn't speak out and put the thought to rest. And then the next thing you know (could happen instantly or could be day(s) or week(s)) that what you wished or prayed secretly in your heart, was granted by someone! Sounds familiar???

Well I have 2 recent cases which I find it very amusing and it keeps me wondering is that what people called, telepathy? or was it God who did the work? Or perhaps it was merely a coincident?

So one day, Keith went out with my mom-in-law to a Lotte Mart (Korean convenient store) to buy some ingredients for dinner. I suddenly recalled this Korean Rice Tea which I love so much, so I thought of calling him and ask him to get it for me. But somehow for don't know what strange reason, I didn't call him but kind of hoping he could sort of 'hear' me. And he bought it. :)

Well, base on the above example, could it be telepathy? Since we are a couple for so long and perhaps our wavelength are attune to a certain degree, and that was why he get my message? Or it is just a coincident since he knows me so well over the years??? So I guess for this one it is totally arguable.

Another case just happened this week. Hubby and I made a dental appointment last month for teeth whitening and it was supposed to take place yesterday. However, due to some issues I decided to cancel the appointment. So through out the whole of last week, I was suppose to call and cancel it while Keith was away. But somehow, I kept forgetting during the day and only recall it at night. So it was delay all the way to Friday morning and I still haven't cancel the appointment.

I was on the phone with my hubby on Friday morning, and suddenly I recalled that I have not cancel the appointment, so I told him, "Oh no, I have not call to cancel the appointment", and he calmly replied, "I've cancelled it". At the back of my head I was thinking why would my hubby waste money to make an international call to cancel the dental appointment? He could have just send me a reminder via Whatsapp for the cancellation. So I asked, "Did they call you?", and then he replied, "Yes. The lady called me and ask me about you, and I told her you are my wife. The lady told me that you wish to sort of postpone the appointment. So I told her actually we want to cancel it and we will make a new appointment later.".

First, I never made the call to the dental clinic. Second, during the whole week, whenever I recall that I need to call the clinic the next day, I was actually contemplating whether to tell them that I just want to cancel the appointment or reschedule a new date. Isn't that amazing?!!??!

Do you believe telepathy exists? Or do you think it was God's lil' angel who did the message passing? 

And what was your experience?

Manner... Respect... Where Are You?

I always believe in treating people with kindness and to respect people no matter what is their professions as long they are earning an honest living.

There is absolutely no reason for us to be rude and disrespectful to anyone unless some exceptional cases. And what I meant by exceptional are as following scenarios.

That someone...

1.  Cause you the trouble and be rude to you

2.  Cause you the trouble and put the blame on you

3.  Cause you the trouble and refuse to rectify it

So if you face the above scenarios, it is up to your own discretion how you want to react towards that person. Of course I do not concede to any form of physical nor verbal abuse to any individual. But if you ever encounter anyone like I just mentioned above, at least your anger is justifiable so even if you lose your cool a little, it is understandable. After all, we are only human. But that don't mean you have to be nasty. Alright? ;)

Now, what I absolute can't stand is when the following happens but some people totally leave their manner elsewhere and behave rudely towards someone who is there to help.

That someone...

1.  Cause you trouble but is sorry and trying to rectify it

2.  Not the one who cause you the trouble but is helping to rectify the problem

3.  You make the mistake (directly or indirectly) but try to totally put the blame on others

Even if we are angry or annoyed, we must always try our best to keep our cool. We can be assertive but never be rude.

My boss told me this few days ago, 'As long we are doing things with integrity, we should not be fearful', and I totally agree with him.

One must know that, when you have done nothing wrong, and if the other party behaving rudely and talk down to you,  it will not demeaning you. It might be a little embarrassing if that person is doing that to you in front of other people coz others may not know the truth and may assume the fault is yours. Ultimately, the truth will prevail and for someone who forgets about respecting others would only project themselves to others how ugly the personalities they have. In the end, they might have win the battle but lose the war. :)

So cheer up, people! Remember, as long we are doing things with integrity, we shall not  fear.

Cheers yo!

Taipei Taipei

Just came back from my little retreat from Taipei with my beloved on Sunday. I was there for 5D/4N free and easy trip.

It is now summer in Taiwan and the weather is so so hot! The very first thing I bought in Taipei after I checked in to the hotel was sunblock. :D

Didn't really like the food there but the beef noodles are to die for. I also like the braise duck found in 西門町 itself, but I forgot the name of the restaurant.

I had the best bubble tea ever called 青蛙撞奶 found at this 陳三鼎黑糖粉圓鮮奶專賣店 near 公館 station. The queue was super long but it was worth the wait. 

Before I go to Taiwan, many people told me that things in Taiwan are VERY CHEAP. But sadly it is not. Maybe I've went there at the wrong timing as I heard during Winter and Spring, the stuffs selling there are really very cheap.

Went to a few tourist spots and did a lot of walking under the hot sun everyday. Thank God for their nice and well planned subway facilities that we also get to avoid the sun as much as possible walking underground.

It was overall a nice place to visit as the Taiwanese are really very friendly and helpful. Especially for the Chinese, you would not feel like a foreigner when you are there.

 

Nice to meet you....Love

You don't look for love. Love... just happens.

I had given up on Love once, but then.... Love has found me.

Everyone wants to love and be loved.

Love... is not about being with someone. Love... is knowing that someone is there for you whenever you need him/her. Love.. is that someone will always be there on standby even when you don't need them.

Love comes in many forms. To know Love is to Care.Even if you have stop loving someone intimately, that doesn't mean you have stop loving that person at once. As long you still care, you love. Difference is, that 'love' as evolved to a different kind of Love.

Sometimes, Love can be blind but Love is also a Choice. Falling Out of Love is as easy as falling in, if you let it. But, you can be in control and choose to Stay In Love.

Love is beautiful yet cunning. It might throws many challenges and temptations at you occasionally.

Love knows no boundaries. Race, age, gender, wealth, education, religion could not be used to measure love. Coz Love, knows non of them.

Love is Protective but isn't Possessive. Love knows contentment, not envy.

Love is a fragile little thing that requires careful nurturing with loads of patience, understanding, compromise, endurance, care and support.

Love is not selfish but it isn't selfless.

Love is unconditional. Though Love does not expect anything in return but it wishes to be loved back.

To Love others, we must first Love ourselves.

Love is as powerful as it is destructive. It can either make you a better person or the opposite. This is all depends on who and what you Love.

These are what I've learned about Love and how I interpret Love. :)

As I Was Saying.... The Book's Cover

Never judge a book by it's cover. This is what we have always been hearing or even reminded ourselves from time to time.

Judged a book (hypothetically), I did. It was a very funny incident happened 2 days ago during my company's Health Awareness Day. 

You see there were a few representatives came to the event from this fitness training center to gave us some demonstration on self defense techniques. There was a very small size lady and two muscular and fit young guys in their 20's. And there he was, a tall middle age man (he looks like in his late 40's) which is half bald at the front with a ponytail and he faced the audience (I was one of them) and gave an opening speech. To be honest, when I first lay eyes on him, he did gave me a bit of Chinese Kungfu Master kind of impression (base on characters I saw in those old HK movies/drama).

While he was talking, my colleague whispered to me, "Can he be the Master/Sifu?", and very quickly without even thinking for a second, I blurted out, "Cannot be. Coz he got a tummy there." (to be fair, it was just a very small tummy). And quickly, we turn our attention back to that man. He starts giving some introduction about himself and mentioning that he is the trainer of that 2 young guys I was mentioning earlier, and that he is 60 of age and he can do 1000 push up a day. Imagine the Ooohhh and Ahhhh (gasping sound) escaped from the audience' lips (which mostly were ladies) when he mentioned all that.

And there it begun....... both my colleagues immediately turned their head towards me and said, "Liz, you see, you look down on him, did you hear what he just said?!!!? I think he can kill you with just one finger ah!". And we all started giggling so loudly. Honestly, I felt so shy due to what I said earlier, but then it was all a joke. But my, that man was really a surprise. Didn't I mentioned he looks  40's? He is actually 60 years old!!!

My colleagues kept teasing me every now and then when that man demonstrating some acts. So in the end I succumb to my colleagues, "Okay, okay. My fault. I'm so sorry. I take back what I said earlier." (and I pretended to slap myself a few times). Seriously, I laughed so hard and I got tears in my eyes.

Actually the reason why I didn't expect him to be the trainer was because he doesn't really have those muscular physique which I usually see in those sports trainers (too much influenced by all the Kickboxing/MuayThai sports). :P

  

So yes, It's another theory proven that we should never judge a person base on their outlook. 

Enough said.

 

TOUGH

A small episode happened at work today due to some misunderstanding. And I was involved.

Given the same situation if it happened 2 years ago, I would have been so so upset and would have hid at a corner and cry silently. But what happened today did not affects me.I wasn't upset at all.

I am tougher now than I was 2 years ago. Guess my previous job role has offered a very good training ground for me to toughen up myself and to improve my EQ.

I still don't like to argue with people and usually the first one to keep quiet if I see the other party can't be reasoned with. But at least now, I don't get upset by all these minute stuffs.

Even if I've done wrong, I would apologize to the other party and move on coz I always believe let bygone be bygone. I do not hold any grudge towards anyone and I also hope no one does towards me.

And I choose to focus on all the happy and good things in life. Coz, the GOOD is Bigger than the bad.

Life can be tough. We just have to be tougher. :)

P/S : At the end all are good (I hope). :D

I've Changed but Yet The Same

I can tell you who I was. I can tell you who I am. But I can't tell you who I will be.

Everything that we are experiencing in our life changes the way we perceive things and the way we react to people and incidents from time to time.

Tomorrow I may dislike what I love today. Things which are so intolerable to me now may not bother me a single bit tomorrow.

Time is passing and we are changing constantly, every second, ever minute and everyday.

But no matter how much I've changed over the years, I am still....who I am. The core does not changed. Only my perceptions and approaches towards people and life itself have changed.

Why You No Like Me?!

Have you ever wonder why some people don't like you?!

Let's say you are the type that don't gossip about people, you always mind your own business and do your best not to comment much on anyone nor anything to minimize the chance of offending someone or something (What?!). And you are certain you don't do anything that might hurt or shortchange others for your own gain. And yet, not everyone likes you.

And then you keep wondering why is someone you know, who always seem to have much to comment/condemn about other people, the one always with the latest gossips practically about everyone you may or may not know. That someone, seems to be much more well receive by others than yourself.

Even if your are a very nice person, doesn't mean everyone would like you (sorry, I'm not implying I am a very nice person, though I like to believe I am, but I do have my own shortfalls and I know what they are). Likewise, even if you are a horrible/annoying person in certain aspects, not everybody would dislike you.

Everyone of us has our own personalities and we have our like and dislike. Sometimes even 'A' has never do anything bad towards you, but just because of the way he/she laugh, somehow the sound just tick you off for no reason. Or whatever the person says seems to spark off your temper and you just can't help yourself giving sarcastic comments right after his/her every statement.

I do wonder if I am being too sensitive and have got the whole idea wrong. The thing is, people might not dislike you, but because people might find someone who does not have much to share or talk about, BORING! So they rather talk to people who always have lots of stories to tell as a form of entertainment. :D

Nevertheless, I believe you have the intuition to tell whether someone likes you or not because most people are not good in concealing their feelings. If they don't like you, it's actually pretty easy to tell. I think it is pretty normal that when you don't really like a person, you would do your best to minimize any unnecessary contact and only talk to that person if really have to. All of us can be on either side or both sides.

Bottom line is, we may not really like all the people we know and vice versa. I guess that is OK provided you don't go and start talking bad about people just because you don't like how that person dress or other minute/silly reason. 

What I'm trying to say is, it is fine if you don't like me and you don't want to hang out with me. I respect and accept that. All I ask for is please do not ever imply something negative about me to others that make other to be prejudice against me. Because I can really swear that I have never done this to anyone in my entire life.

Long Forgotten.... Not!

I have not update my blog for a very long time to the point that I almost forgotten I ever have one. :P

My hubby occasionally pop up the question, "Are you still updating your post? If not, why don't you shut it down?".

"No. I don't want to", I replied, "Even if I don't ever update it again I will want to keep it there ( unless Blogspot removes my blog), Coz, it has all the memories and life experiences I have gone through over the years. I would love to read it once in a while".

There were many times I've wanted to login to my blog and start typing away with all the things that happening in my life. But then, I always have this worries at the back of my head, what if some people read it and don't like what I written? Or they may interpret it wrongly and start to judge me negatively?

Oh well, I think too much and worry too much. I should stop this at once.

From now on, I will start writing down my thoughts and experiences in life whenever I feel like it. No more worry about what other people think about me. Because, after all these years, I realized one thing, people who really know you would not easily misinterpret you and judge you, but if people don't like you and don't bother to get to know you, no matter how positive the things you say or do, they will have it twisted and turn into something ugly.

 So here I am. Restarting the engine.

Vrooommmm....Vrooommmm......