Where Are Your Consciences?!?

Something disheartens me today.

I have a friend who got married about 1 ½ years ago. Just gave birth to a baby girl about 1 ½ months ago, a first time mom.

Imagine right after she gave birth during her confinement, she has to endure all the mental torments. Instead of getting love, care and support from her family, she has to put up with all the silent treatment, cold shoulder and isolation from the people closest to her.

All these…..thanks to the long time rivalry between her mom and her mom in-law. Both families are from the same town and both the mothers never see eye to eye in their life. Things were put to rest after the two families bound by their children marriage, but somehow, her mom again stirred things up once again and all the ugly past are being dug out again.

It is something between the mothers and it should not drag the children along. For people as old as their mother & mom in-law, they rather risk to destroy their children’s marriage & family than to patch things up & let by-gone be by-gone for the sake of their children. How selfish can a mother be?

The worst thing is my friend’s husband is totally not supportive or understanding at all. He and his mom insisted that my friend and her mom are all set to make their life miserable and the most sickening part is, he asked for a divorce because of this sort of stupid things between the mothers.

Do you all not have hearts for compassion or brains to think rationally? Or you simply neither have both?

Husband, how lightly do you take your marriage with your wife? Someone you swore to love and care at all time? Because of the conflict between your mom and her mom, and you are letting go your marriage, your family just like that?!?!

Is bad enough that my friend acknowledge that it was her mom’s fault who started all these again, but there’s nothing much she can do as she’d already tried her best to talked to her mom try to sort things out. Likewise, you cannot go against your mom for your wife sake also. But, you as a husband, for you to behave like what you are now, don’t you think it’s rather childish? You are a husband & a father for God sake!

And as a father, you had the nerve to tell your wife that you would not help to take care of your own daughter because your work is very busy??? Who is not busy with their works? You want to have kid, no matter how busy you are, it is your obligation to share the responsibility in taking care of your child!

People get married for many different reasons, e.g. love, money, security, partner, children, family pressure, etc. What were yours?

As an outsider, I will not comment much about other people marriage but this incident has really sadden me, thus I had to post it out and release my anger & sadness.

I do hope that they can work things out ASAP. Please don’t treat your marriage so lightly! Think twice before you do anything you might regret later.