I just came back from a 3 days 2 nights company team building on Sunday. Well, people who attended team building before knew exactly what is it like. There are always few programs planned out for the participants and each activity meant to find out how every individual can work together as a team and to learn the importance of teamwork.
It is always fun when we get to go for this sort of company trip where you get to interact with your colleagues in different environment and get to learn about your co-workers from a different perspective and discover the different side of each individuals.
Often it is through work and playing games that require teamwork, you get to see the true character of a person. I often find it very interesting and it is one of my great interest to study and observe people's behaviours in different conditions and when they play different roles in their daily lives, i.e. son, father/mother, co-worker, employee, superior, friend, and so on.
We do not determine the success of team building by how much the participants enjoyed the games or how much fun we had with one another but rather what has everyone learnt from those team building activities by understanding the true spirit and meaning of teamwork. Teamwork is not about being the first to finish the task; it is about how different people from all walks of life come together and put away the differences among each other to compromise and works to achieve the same goal the most effective way.
One thing I've observed in my daily lives and even more so during the past few days was, people like to compare themselves with others and complaining about what disadvantages they have, and they give excuses for why they are unable to achieve the same or do better than others due to the shortfalls they have. Often in life, we waste too much time in comparing and grumbling about our unfavorable condition, and we lose sight on what we already have. We focus too much on the 'If only I have …, I will be able to achieve the same or do better' instead of focusing on how we can make do with what we have and turn the disadvantage to an advantage.
Like it or not, life is unfair. But how do we come about to decide whether we are on the advantage or disadvantage side? It is when we start to compare. There is no such things as who is having the upper hand or not if we never compare. It’s because we compare and sometimes we found that we lack of what others have and perceive what we don’t have as a disadvantage and we use it as excuses to ourselves and to others.
For instance, A is given 1000 dollars and B is given 2000 dollars. Both are told to use the money to invest and sell the same product. Who do you think will make the most profit after one month? Naturally, majority would answer B (without much thought). Why B? Well, standard answer would be, because B was given 1000 dollars more than A and B would be able to buy more stock and sell more so logically B would makes more money. Correct? Yes and no.
Even A was given 1000 dollars less than B doesn’t mean A would lose to B, because it is not merely about who has more goods or better product to sell but many factors to define the success or failure. The packaging, how you market & promote, target consumers and price, all these play a big role. If A does it right he could easily make more money than B.
It’s only when we learnt to stop comparing ourselves to others and focusing on how to make the best out of what we already have, then only we will be able to achieve more in life. We do not live by other people standard because we should be the one to set our own standard. Always remember that the only person we need to compete with is ourselves. The greatest achievement in life is not by how many people we have defeated but how much we can out do ourselves by achieving more than what we think we could and living larger than who we think we are.
I was a little upset this morning coz I started to think about how people always perceive me and misunderstood me. I don’t know, perhaps in some people eyes, I’m like a bimbo who is spoilt, shallow and do not know how to do housework and cook and that makes me feel like I am good for nothing as I start thinking and comparing myself to other people. But then Keith told me that I should stop thinking and caring too much about how other people see or think about me. I allowed all that to affect me and I end up lost sight of people who appreciate me and look up to me for who I really am.
So should I do something to convince people that they are wrong about me? Oh well, I’m not going to bother. If people want to judge me without trying to know me better so be it, coz I live my life for no one but myself and my love ones, I’m answerable to no one but God. As long as I’m true to myself and live my life to the fullest, I don’t have to prove myself to anyone. After all, I know myself best. I am who I am and I’m damn proud of it.
Quotes to share:
“Individual commitment to a group effort - that is what makes a team work, a company work, a society work, a civilization work”
“Coming together is a beginning. Keeping together is progress. Working together is success”
“Regardless of differences, we strive shoulder to shoulder... Teamwork can be summed up in five short words: "We believe in each other."
“Public opinion is a weak tyrant, compared with our private opinion - what a man thinks of himself, that is which determines, or rather indicates his fate”
“If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain and bitter, for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself”
Monday, September 01, 2008
Monday, August 11, 2008
A Love like This
Ok, I’m not trying to brag or show off but people who know me & my hubby or people who have seen us can really tell how much my hubby loves me and cares for me. I can safely say that I am one of the luckiest girls in the world. Coz not only I have a loving husband, I’m also blessed with awesome in-laws plus all the relatives.
Through out the 6 years of relationship, there were many challenges in our marriage and I’m glad that we’ve manage to go through every obstacle together, Well, I have to admit that I’m the weaker one in love relationship coz usually when things don’t go well, I often try to seek the easy way out, but through him (my hubby), I’ve the chance to witness and learned a lot about the Love of God.
I always believe God works through people. For He always plant little seeds of thoughts and ideas in people’s hearts and minds, and make us carry out HIS work without even noticing it.
Both of us had our downfalls in these past years and while God knows that I’m the weaker one, HE made my hubby even stronger, not only for himself but for both of us in this marriage. When my hubby fell, God gave him self realisation and made him fight for this marriage in silence (without me knowing) and make it even stronger than before. And when it was my turn to fall recently, God made him even stronger and wiser in order to pull me up and support me again and again as I kept failing him. And yet, he did not give me up. He continues to support me as my hubby, my soul mate and my best friend. For I’m certain that given the same scenario most people would have walk out from it long ago.
Seriously, I have never seen someone quite like him. His love for me is unconditional, just like God. His love truly amaze me coz I’ve never ever dare to dream of meeting someone like him. He has been with me through thick and thin, rain and shine, even during my ugliest moment due to my horrible breakouts, he has never once felt ashamed of how I look when he went out with me. He was only upset when people stared at me strangely for he knows it hurts my feelings and self esteem.
He has always been very protective of me and treated me like a little princess and he has always put me before himself. We have always shared a very unique relationship and special bonding. We are not merely husband and wife, we are also soul mate and best friends, because sometimes when situation is tense between us as husband and wife, we always have the ability to switch to the role as friends to analyse things and to give our opinions as how a friend is expected to be and solve our problems together. We never need to confide or share our problems to other people to seek advice or sort coz we are each other best friend and we have the ability to play different roles in this relationship whenever it suits.
Sometimes, I really think that I don’t deserve him but then I believe I must have done something wonderful (though I don’t know what is it) for God to love me so much and give me such a wonderful husband and everything that comes along with it.
I’ve always been very proud of him as my hubby not only for who he is and what he has achieved so far but I know that no one would ever loves me like he does and I want to make him proud of me (not that he is not) and love him the way no one else can.
I love you my dear and sorry for being such a fool. Thank you for not giving me up, thank you for not giving us up. It is truly a great blessing & honour to be your wife, soul mate and best friend in this lifetime.
Through out the 6 years of relationship, there were many challenges in our marriage and I’m glad that we’ve manage to go through every obstacle together, Well, I have to admit that I’m the weaker one in love relationship coz usually when things don’t go well, I often try to seek the easy way out, but through him (my hubby), I’ve the chance to witness and learned a lot about the Love of God.
I always believe God works through people. For He always plant little seeds of thoughts and ideas in people’s hearts and minds, and make us carry out HIS work without even noticing it.
Both of us had our downfalls in these past years and while God knows that I’m the weaker one, HE made my hubby even stronger, not only for himself but for both of us in this marriage. When my hubby fell, God gave him self realisation and made him fight for this marriage in silence (without me knowing) and make it even stronger than before. And when it was my turn to fall recently, God made him even stronger and wiser in order to pull me up and support me again and again as I kept failing him. And yet, he did not give me up. He continues to support me as my hubby, my soul mate and my best friend. For I’m certain that given the same scenario most people would have walk out from it long ago.
Seriously, I have never seen someone quite like him. His love for me is unconditional, just like God. His love truly amaze me coz I’ve never ever dare to dream of meeting someone like him. He has been with me through thick and thin, rain and shine, even during my ugliest moment due to my horrible breakouts, he has never once felt ashamed of how I look when he went out with me. He was only upset when people stared at me strangely for he knows it hurts my feelings and self esteem.
He has always been very protective of me and treated me like a little princess and he has always put me before himself. We have always shared a very unique relationship and special bonding. We are not merely husband and wife, we are also soul mate and best friends, because sometimes when situation is tense between us as husband and wife, we always have the ability to switch to the role as friends to analyse things and to give our opinions as how a friend is expected to be and solve our problems together. We never need to confide or share our problems to other people to seek advice or sort coz we are each other best friend and we have the ability to play different roles in this relationship whenever it suits.
Sometimes, I really think that I don’t deserve him but then I believe I must have done something wonderful (though I don’t know what is it) for God to love me so much and give me such a wonderful husband and everything that comes along with it.
I’ve always been very proud of him as my hubby not only for who he is and what he has achieved so far but I know that no one would ever loves me like he does and I want to make him proud of me (not that he is not) and love him the way no one else can.
I love you my dear and sorry for being such a fool. Thank you for not giving me up, thank you for not giving us up. It is truly a great blessing & honour to be your wife, soul mate and best friend in this lifetime.
Thursday, July 24, 2008
Lie No More...
For if I ever have any doubt whether God really exists, I truly know He does now.
It is funny how sometimes we human think that we can actually outsmart everyone and everything, yes even God.
When people lie and cheat, they always think that they have the best lies and if they are careful enough, no one would ever find out about it. But, that is not true at all. No matter how careful you planned or try to hide the evident, somehow, the truth would creep out from the closet and cry for justice. God always has his unique and unthinkable ways to expose all the falsehood.
Seriously, unless one is truly meant to cheat with no remorse, apart from the wariness of getting caught, one would definitely have the mix feelings of guilt, frustration and awkwardness. And all that would slowly give you away as it’s would somehow affect the way you act toward that someone you are lying to or cheating on.
Even you are really good in acting normal and do not raise any suspicion; however, God still has his way to strip you off and disclose the naked truth. Because when one cheats, you will need to tell a lie, and in order to cover that lie, you might need to tell another lie, and so forth…. And that’s where you would put yourself on the frying pan as the numbers of lies pile up, you would definitely slip-up here and there (unless you write down every single lie you told) and there’s where you are BUSTED!!!
The truth is no one can ever get away with any treachery as God would always work his miracle way to expose us.
Quotes to share:
You can bend it and twist it... You can misuse and abuse it... But even God cannot change the Truth
A lie never lives to be old
The end of an ox is beef, and the end of a lie is grief.
Unless your heart, your soul, and your whole being are behind every decision you make, the words from your mouth will be empty, and each action will be meaningless. Truth and confidence are the roots of happiness.
It is funny how sometimes we human think that we can actually outsmart everyone and everything, yes even God.
When people lie and cheat, they always think that they have the best lies and if they are careful enough, no one would ever find out about it. But, that is not true at all. No matter how careful you planned or try to hide the evident, somehow, the truth would creep out from the closet and cry for justice. God always has his unique and unthinkable ways to expose all the falsehood.
Seriously, unless one is truly meant to cheat with no remorse, apart from the wariness of getting caught, one would definitely have the mix feelings of guilt, frustration and awkwardness. And all that would slowly give you away as it’s would somehow affect the way you act toward that someone you are lying to or cheating on.
Even you are really good in acting normal and do not raise any suspicion; however, God still has his way to strip you off and disclose the naked truth. Because when one cheats, you will need to tell a lie, and in order to cover that lie, you might need to tell another lie, and so forth…. And that’s where you would put yourself on the frying pan as the numbers of lies pile up, you would definitely slip-up here and there (unless you write down every single lie you told) and there’s where you are BUSTED!!!
The truth is no one can ever get away with any treachery as God would always work his miracle way to expose us.
Quotes to share:
You can bend it and twist it... You can misuse and abuse it... But even God cannot change the Truth
A lie never lives to be old
The end of an ox is beef, and the end of a lie is grief.
Unless your heart, your soul, and your whole being are behind every decision you make, the words from your mouth will be empty, and each action will be meaningless. Truth and confidence are the roots of happiness.
Monday, July 14, 2008
What's Your Impression of Me???
Could it be the way I speak? Or the way I walk? Maybe the way I carry myself? Or it's just everything that I've projected to the eyes of the others????
People's usual first impression of me is 'soft'. Well, feminine & soft I am, but then, it doesn't mean that I don't get my hands dirty. Often when I talk to people, they would be very surprise when they found out that I can cook, YES, I can!!! I've been cooking since I was 12. So you people please stop acting so shock and ask me in a high pitch "You can cook?!?!!?" or say stuff like " What's your best dish? Fried egg?" (so sarcastic, huh!).
Besides, there are many also think that I'm well pampered that I do not do any housework. (probably because people often think Keith has over-pampered me). Sigh....I'm not that rich, so if I don't do the housework, who's gonna do it? Me & Keith always share the house chores. I usually do the vacuuming & mopping, while he does the dusting & wiping. I even clean the toilet bowl you know. :P
I may look soft, feminine, fragile and perhaps childish at times on the outside, but I am an inter-dependant, tough and mature lady inside. I am just being myself and behave like how a lady should behave. In fact, by the way I was brought up, it's a surprise that I didn't turn out to be a tomboy.
People's usual first impression of me is 'soft'. Well, feminine & soft I am, but then, it doesn't mean that I don't get my hands dirty. Often when I talk to people, they would be very surprise when they found out that I can cook, YES, I can!!! I've been cooking since I was 12. So you people please stop acting so shock and ask me in a high pitch "You can cook?!?!!?" or say stuff like " What's your best dish? Fried egg?" (so sarcastic, huh!).
Besides, there are many also think that I'm well pampered that I do not do any housework. (probably because people often think Keith has over-pampered me). Sigh....I'm not that rich, so if I don't do the housework, who's gonna do it? Me & Keith always share the house chores. I usually do the vacuuming & mopping, while he does the dusting & wiping. I even clean the toilet bowl you know. :P
I may look soft, feminine, fragile and perhaps childish at times on the outside, but I am an inter-dependant, tough and mature lady inside. I am just being myself and behave like how a lady should behave. In fact, by the way I was brought up, it's a surprise that I didn't turn out to be a tomboy.
It's doesn't mean I'm acting or not being myself, but if you really get to know me well, you will know that I'm not the girly girl type as you think I am. ;)
Sunday, July 06, 2008
International Muay Thai Superfights - 05 July 2008
Me & Keith and two close friends of ours went for the International Muay Thai Superfights show at the Stadium Melawati in Shah Alam last night.
This is the first ever international fight event in Malaysia and I’m so glad that I actually asked Keith to watch this show with me coz it really worth every cent of it.
There was a female match and you really don’t want to mess with them as they are as aggressive as the men.
The last contenders match was between Thai and Scotland and it was the best fight of the night!!! Too bad the referee called off the match during the 4th round as the Thai guy was bleeding rather badly. It was such a waste but it was indeed a good fight. But there will be a rematch in this coming December as they are going to hold the Muay Thai grand Prix in KL again!!! Really can’t wait for the next event. J
While the organizer promised ‘PAIN Guaranteed’ and it did. The fights were so intense and we can really feel the pain coming from the punching & kicking between the fighters.
And the best thing is, we get to see them bleed…….errr…ok, I know I sound a bit sadist or psycho here but hey…that’s what everyone expect to see when come to this sort of sport, else it wouldn’t be real anymore…
It says no camera allowed at the entrance so at first Keith told me not to take any photo. But then I saw so many people use their phones and cameras snapping pictures openly, so I couldn’t be bothered and also snapping away. Hehehehe…
Here are some pictures to share with you guys who didn’t go for the event. J
http://www.muaythaisuperfights.com/
We snapped pics of Joe & Jen
Waiting to enter the stadium
The Ring
Stamp on Keith's arm
Stamp on my arm
The female match was nice as they were very aggressive
This is the Thai Champion
Some 'fleshy' show during the break.... :P
The blood splatters...COOL
The aftermath
This is the first ever international fight event in Malaysia and I’m so glad that I actually asked Keith to watch this show with me coz it really worth every cent of it.
There was a female match and you really don’t want to mess with them as they are as aggressive as the men.
The last contenders match was between Thai and Scotland and it was the best fight of the night!!! Too bad the referee called off the match during the 4th round as the Thai guy was bleeding rather badly. It was such a waste but it was indeed a good fight. But there will be a rematch in this coming December as they are going to hold the Muay Thai grand Prix in KL again!!! Really can’t wait for the next event. J
While the organizer promised ‘PAIN Guaranteed’ and it did. The fights were so intense and we can really feel the pain coming from the punching & kicking between the fighters.
And the best thing is, we get to see them bleed…….errr…ok, I know I sound a bit sadist or psycho here but hey…that’s what everyone expect to see when come to this sort of sport, else it wouldn’t be real anymore…
It says no camera allowed at the entrance so at first Keith told me not to take any photo. But then I saw so many people use their phones and cameras snapping pictures openly, so I couldn’t be bothered and also snapping away. Hehehehe…
Here are some pictures to share with you guys who didn’t go for the event. J
http://www.muaythaisuperfights.com/
We snapped pics of Joe & Jen
Waiting to enter the stadium
The Ring
Stamp on Keith's arm
Stamp on my arm
The female match was nice as they were very aggressive
This is the Thai Champion
Some 'fleshy' show during the break.... :P
The blood splatters...COOL
The aftermathIt's been so long....
Wah.... just realise I've not update my blog for more than a month already...... tsk tsk tsk....
Not that I have nothing interesting to blog about but I've been really busy and also lazy (this is actually the main reason :P) but guess I have to pick up the pace again. :)
So, Gambatte Lizzie!!!!
Not that I have nothing interesting to blog about but I've been really busy and also lazy (this is actually the main reason :P) but guess I have to pick up the pace again. :)
So, Gambatte Lizzie!!!!
Saturday, June 21, 2008
Busy....Lazy...
Hmmm...I've been very lazy again to update my blog lately . But at the same time it is because I'm also very busy with work and many things in my personal life.
Lots of things happened and there were up & down, joy & tears, some are rather dramatic, but I just feel so lazy to write them down. After much thoughts, I decided not to write anything abt it coz I really don't want to try to recall all the past incidents.
Need to reserve my brain juice for other stuff and not to think back what already happened.
Whatever happened I can't change, so just have to get going and move on with my life.....
Cheers!
Lots of things happened and there were up & down, joy & tears, some are rather dramatic, but I just feel so lazy to write them down. After much thoughts, I decided not to write anything abt it coz I really don't want to try to recall all the past incidents.
Need to reserve my brain juice for other stuff and not to think back what already happened.
Whatever happened I can't change, so just have to get going and move on with my life.....
Cheers!
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