This is it! The last day of year 2008!
We can all say good bye in different languages with different emotions base on our personal gratitude for all things that happened in 2008.
I would like to say a BIG 'Thank You' to 2008 for I've LIVE for another year surrounded by all that I love and those who love me unconditionally.
No matter what happened, I am grateful & thankful (and some regretful) for all the incidents happened in 2008. There were indeed many good lessons in life I've learned in this past year.
So good bye 2008.... thanks for everything!!!
Sayonara!
Vaarwel!
Au revoir!
Arrivederci!
Selamat Tinggal!
Good bye!
Wednesday, December 31, 2008
Monday, December 29, 2008
Goodbye 2008... Hello 2009
The curtains of 2008 are drawing... we are coming to the end of 2008 in just 3 days.
For those who have been having a not so good/bad year, they just can't wait for year 2008 to end. They are eagerly welcoming the New Year hoping and praying to have a brand new start and better luck in year 2009.
For those who have been having a good/great year, they just going to miss year 2008 but at the same time hoping that God will continue to favor them and bless them in the New Year with good fortune.
It is a bitter sweet feeling for me as many things have happened in year 2008. Nevertheless, I must thank God for His love and also for my hubby's love & endurance through out the whole time.
I wish and pray that it will be a better year for Keith & me at work and the continuous growth of our marriage & personal life.
And I wish the best to all my love ones and all that I do not know.
For those who have been having a not so good/bad year, they just can't wait for year 2008 to end. They are eagerly welcoming the New Year hoping and praying to have a brand new start and better luck in year 2009.
For those who have been having a good/great year, they just going to miss year 2008 but at the same time hoping that God will continue to favor them and bless them in the New Year with good fortune.
It is a bitter sweet feeling for me as many things have happened in year 2008. Nevertheless, I must thank God for His love and also for my hubby's love & endurance through out the whole time.
I wish and pray that it will be a better year for Keith & me at work and the continuous growth of our marriage & personal life.
And I wish the best to all my love ones and all that I do not know.
Sunday, December 21, 2008
Change Your Attitude, Change Your Life
Warning: This is a very long post
Having worked for 11 years myself, I noticed that many people these days seriously lack the right attitude at work.
Most employees like to complain about their managers a lot. They often think they are being mistreated when they find out that some of their company benefits are not as good as others but forget about those better benefits they do have.
I am not at manager level. I’m just a normal senior executive like many out there. I always like to observe and analyze people and things that happen around me. I also like to put myself in other people’s shoes and try to see things from different perspectives. Thus, it allows me to have a better understanding and open mind compare to many people towards many things in life.
I was twice a supervisor where I had admin assistants reporting under me in the past so more or less I have the taste as how it is like to manage people. Frankly speaking, I’m a lousy manager because I do not have the right skills for a managerial role. I am way too soft hearted and that is not a good thing. However, I am a very good soldier as I take orders & execute tasks well. :)
It is never easy to be a manager and not everyone can be a good manager. Employees always have the wrong perception that their bosses (as in manager and above) do not face the same pressure as they do. I have to tell you that you are just so very wrong for thinking that way.
Unless you are working for the owner of the company, who has no one to report to and no one to answer to but himself regardless the company does well or not. Believe me, whether he or she is the HoD/manager, the country manager, the regional manager and so forth, he/she is as nervous and pressured as you & me when they meet their bosses.
Your managers are answerable to their immediate boss just like everyone else simply because they are merely the ‘employees’ of the company. The higher the position, the bigger the responsibility. Managers are just as vulnerable as the normal level staff as they too need to deliver result. If they do not perform, they will get scolding from their bosses or even get fired.
I have a friend who used to complained about his ex-boss last time and even called his ex-boss a ‘Bitch’. And then one fine day, he himself was promoted in his then new job and became a manager himself. During one of the casual conversation, he told me then only he realized it is not easy to be a manager as he used to think. As a manager you have to be the medium between the staff and the higher management. On one hand, you need to try to fight for your subordinates for better pay, benefits, working environment and etc. but on the other hand; you have to think for the management to make sure your subordinates do not abuse what the company has to offer. It is what I called a ‘Sandwich’ situation. You just can’t please your subordinates and the higher management at the same time. There is no WIN-WIN situation. We just have to compromise.
The relation between the manager & subordinates are interdependent. The managers need their staff to help execute and materialize their plans just as much as the staffs need their managers to lead them and nurture them so that they too can grow in both professionally and their personal development. The manager can’t function without his staffs and vice versa. Why do I say so? That’s because no matter how good a manager is if he has inefficient staffs to help him to execute the tasks, he/she won’t be able to achieve the goals, likewise a vey good & hard working staff, if without a good leader, he/she might just doing the work blindly without knowing the right direction and may end up not doing the right thing to achieve the goals.
All of us want to be appreciated by our bosses when we’ve done a good job and how does one boss show the appreciation varies. Some just give verbal appreciation, some give treats or both and even promotion. Usually when we have done a good job and we get praise by our bosses, we feel good and confident and appreciated. And we would automatically think that we have a very good boss.
A bad boss is someone who takes all your credits when you are the biggest contributor behind the success and push all the blame on you when things don’t turn out as expected. But, does it mean only those who praise you and give you a pet on your back are the only good boss? To me apart from showing his/her appreciation when the staffs do well, a good boss would also tell you off behind close door when you have done something wrong.
For the majority, when their boss sounded them they always take it negatively, all of a sudden, the boss is being insensitive, bully, belittlement and non appreciative. I must tell you that only those bosses who scold and shout at their staff in public are as above. If your boss tells you off in private, you would be a fool not to appreciate it.
A good boss would tell you off in private because they respect you as a person. The reason they even bother to spend their time to talk to you one to one is because they do care about you and your future in the company. We cannot expect to get praises all the time when seriously we have either done something wrong or simply not doing enough to achieve what the company is expecting of us.
No one likes to hear about any criticisms, especially sometimes you think you have given & done your best. With that mindset, we often shut our mind and react negatively and do something hasty based on emotion. The matter of fact is, no one is perfect, we all make mistake. If your boss is willing to take some time to talk to you and point out what he finds the problem is and what is his expectation on your and tell you how he thinks you could improve, I think everyone should really appreciate that. Criticisms never sound good to our ears and sometimes you feel like you are being belittled by your boss but a good boss would never try to belittle you.
People often see criticisms as a bad thing. For me, I would take the criticisms positively and really ask myself if I have really given my best to do the job. A good boss would never want to see their staffs failed and do you know why? Like I said earlier, it is an interdependent relation, coz if you fail, your boss fail too simply because he has evaluated you and made a judgment that you are capable of doing the job (that’s the reason he hired you in the first place), so if you fail, it also means that he has made a wrong judgment and if you don’t do well, your boss can’t perform either. A good commander can’t win the battle without his efficient soldiers and vice versa.
We must learn not to take criticism too personally especially at work place. Unless your boss shouts at you in front of everyone then I would suggest you not to work under this kind of superior. Human being are always being very judgmental towards other as they can easily spot other people’s fault, however, we often can’t see our own shortfalls and don’t realize we too have weaknesses like others around us.
I’ve been working for 11 years and I often tell people that I’ve been very ‘lucky’ because through out my working life, all my ex-bosses and current boss really ‘sayang’ (like) me very much. Now the thing is, am I really that lucky or simply because I’ve the right attitude at work and that make my superiors like me a lot?
I’ve certainly made some mistakes here and there at work, some of my ex/bosses did talk to me and tell me off what they like or do not like about me and etc. I have never once thought that my bosses were not appreciative coz I know and I understand they meant good. Even though sometimes the words they used are not that nice to hear, I could see through their good intention behind all the sharp words. We are not little children so don’t expect your boss would talk to you like pacifying a kid all the time because when the boss tried the soft approach but failed, they would have no choice but to use reverse psychology to force you to THINK. But the sad fact is, most people are so disinclined to criticisms, they take every single word plainly and think their boss is trying to belittle them and made them feel like a loser.
If you have change a few jobs and you tell yourself and others that the bosses are the reason, there are only 2 possibilities, one is you are just so damn unlucky coz no matter how good you try, somehow all your stupid bosses just don’t appreciate you at all, then I guess you should just accept your sad fate and live the rest of your life believing that you are just unlucky to always get bad bosses. Or, you should WAKE UP and do a REALITY CHECK.
I suggest doing some soul searching and also try to analyse yourself from a 3rd party viewpoint and list down all your strengths and weaknesses and try to rethink all the criticisms you used to get from your ex/bosses and turn those words into driving force and see how you can improve yourself from there.
Or else, trust me, if you are the one who is having the attitude problem and you are not willing to accept the fact and make changes, instead you keep thinking that other people are just simply finding fault and do not appreciate you, you will face the same problem again & again no matter where you work.
I know there are really some terrible bosses out there but you'll have to use your better judgement to differentia whether your boss's criticisms mean good or purely for the sake of finding fault.
Ultimately, it boils down to our attitude and how we react towards things that happen in our daily lives.
Quotes to share:
· He has a right to criticize, who has a heart to help
· Criticism is something we can avoid easily by saying nothing, doing nothing, and being nothing
· We need very strong ears to hear ourselves judged frankly, and because there are few who can endure frank criticism without being stung by it, those who venture to criticize us perform a remarkable act of friendship, for to undertake to wound or offer
· If you have no critics you'll likely have no success.
· I criticize by creation, not by finding fault
Having worked for 11 years myself, I noticed that many people these days seriously lack the right attitude at work.
Most employees like to complain about their managers a lot. They often think they are being mistreated when they find out that some of their company benefits are not as good as others but forget about those better benefits they do have.
I am not at manager level. I’m just a normal senior executive like many out there. I always like to observe and analyze people and things that happen around me. I also like to put myself in other people’s shoes and try to see things from different perspectives. Thus, it allows me to have a better understanding and open mind compare to many people towards many things in life.
I was twice a supervisor where I had admin assistants reporting under me in the past so more or less I have the taste as how it is like to manage people. Frankly speaking, I’m a lousy manager because I do not have the right skills for a managerial role. I am way too soft hearted and that is not a good thing. However, I am a very good soldier as I take orders & execute tasks well. :)
It is never easy to be a manager and not everyone can be a good manager. Employees always have the wrong perception that their bosses (as in manager and above) do not face the same pressure as they do. I have to tell you that you are just so very wrong for thinking that way.
Unless you are working for the owner of the company, who has no one to report to and no one to answer to but himself regardless the company does well or not. Believe me, whether he or she is the HoD/manager, the country manager, the regional manager and so forth, he/she is as nervous and pressured as you & me when they meet their bosses.
Your managers are answerable to their immediate boss just like everyone else simply because they are merely the ‘employees’ of the company. The higher the position, the bigger the responsibility. Managers are just as vulnerable as the normal level staff as they too need to deliver result. If they do not perform, they will get scolding from their bosses or even get fired.
I have a friend who used to complained about his ex-boss last time and even called his ex-boss a ‘Bitch’. And then one fine day, he himself was promoted in his then new job and became a manager himself. During one of the casual conversation, he told me then only he realized it is not easy to be a manager as he used to think. As a manager you have to be the medium between the staff and the higher management. On one hand, you need to try to fight for your subordinates for better pay, benefits, working environment and etc. but on the other hand; you have to think for the management to make sure your subordinates do not abuse what the company has to offer. It is what I called a ‘Sandwich’ situation. You just can’t please your subordinates and the higher management at the same time. There is no WIN-WIN situation. We just have to compromise.
The relation between the manager & subordinates are interdependent. The managers need their staff to help execute and materialize their plans just as much as the staffs need their managers to lead them and nurture them so that they too can grow in both professionally and their personal development. The manager can’t function without his staffs and vice versa. Why do I say so? That’s because no matter how good a manager is if he has inefficient staffs to help him to execute the tasks, he/she won’t be able to achieve the goals, likewise a vey good & hard working staff, if without a good leader, he/she might just doing the work blindly without knowing the right direction and may end up not doing the right thing to achieve the goals.
All of us want to be appreciated by our bosses when we’ve done a good job and how does one boss show the appreciation varies. Some just give verbal appreciation, some give treats or both and even promotion. Usually when we have done a good job and we get praise by our bosses, we feel good and confident and appreciated. And we would automatically think that we have a very good boss.
A bad boss is someone who takes all your credits when you are the biggest contributor behind the success and push all the blame on you when things don’t turn out as expected. But, does it mean only those who praise you and give you a pet on your back are the only good boss? To me apart from showing his/her appreciation when the staffs do well, a good boss would also tell you off behind close door when you have done something wrong.
For the majority, when their boss sounded them they always take it negatively, all of a sudden, the boss is being insensitive, bully, belittlement and non appreciative. I must tell you that only those bosses who scold and shout at their staff in public are as above. If your boss tells you off in private, you would be a fool not to appreciate it.
A good boss would tell you off in private because they respect you as a person. The reason they even bother to spend their time to talk to you one to one is because they do care about you and your future in the company. We cannot expect to get praises all the time when seriously we have either done something wrong or simply not doing enough to achieve what the company is expecting of us.
No one likes to hear about any criticisms, especially sometimes you think you have given & done your best. With that mindset, we often shut our mind and react negatively and do something hasty based on emotion. The matter of fact is, no one is perfect, we all make mistake. If your boss is willing to take some time to talk to you and point out what he finds the problem is and what is his expectation on your and tell you how he thinks you could improve, I think everyone should really appreciate that. Criticisms never sound good to our ears and sometimes you feel like you are being belittled by your boss but a good boss would never try to belittle you.
People often see criticisms as a bad thing. For me, I would take the criticisms positively and really ask myself if I have really given my best to do the job. A good boss would never want to see their staffs failed and do you know why? Like I said earlier, it is an interdependent relation, coz if you fail, your boss fail too simply because he has evaluated you and made a judgment that you are capable of doing the job (that’s the reason he hired you in the first place), so if you fail, it also means that he has made a wrong judgment and if you don’t do well, your boss can’t perform either. A good commander can’t win the battle without his efficient soldiers and vice versa.
We must learn not to take criticism too personally especially at work place. Unless your boss shouts at you in front of everyone then I would suggest you not to work under this kind of superior. Human being are always being very judgmental towards other as they can easily spot other people’s fault, however, we often can’t see our own shortfalls and don’t realize we too have weaknesses like others around us.
I’ve been working for 11 years and I often tell people that I’ve been very ‘lucky’ because through out my working life, all my ex-bosses and current boss really ‘sayang’ (like) me very much. Now the thing is, am I really that lucky or simply because I’ve the right attitude at work and that make my superiors like me a lot?
I’ve certainly made some mistakes here and there at work, some of my ex/bosses did talk to me and tell me off what they like or do not like about me and etc. I have never once thought that my bosses were not appreciative coz I know and I understand they meant good. Even though sometimes the words they used are not that nice to hear, I could see through their good intention behind all the sharp words. We are not little children so don’t expect your boss would talk to you like pacifying a kid all the time because when the boss tried the soft approach but failed, they would have no choice but to use reverse psychology to force you to THINK. But the sad fact is, most people are so disinclined to criticisms, they take every single word plainly and think their boss is trying to belittle them and made them feel like a loser.
If you have change a few jobs and you tell yourself and others that the bosses are the reason, there are only 2 possibilities, one is you are just so damn unlucky coz no matter how good you try, somehow all your stupid bosses just don’t appreciate you at all, then I guess you should just accept your sad fate and live the rest of your life believing that you are just unlucky to always get bad bosses. Or, you should WAKE UP and do a REALITY CHECK.
I suggest doing some soul searching and also try to analyse yourself from a 3rd party viewpoint and list down all your strengths and weaknesses and try to rethink all the criticisms you used to get from your ex/bosses and turn those words into driving force and see how you can improve yourself from there.
Or else, trust me, if you are the one who is having the attitude problem and you are not willing to accept the fact and make changes, instead you keep thinking that other people are just simply finding fault and do not appreciate you, you will face the same problem again & again no matter where you work.
I know there are really some terrible bosses out there but you'll have to use your better judgement to differentia whether your boss's criticisms mean good or purely for the sake of finding fault.
Ultimately, it boils down to our attitude and how we react towards things that happen in our daily lives.
Quotes to share:
· He has a right to criticize, who has a heart to help
· Criticism is something we can avoid easily by saying nothing, doing nothing, and being nothing
· We need very strong ears to hear ourselves judged frankly, and because there are few who can endure frank criticism without being stung by it, those who venture to criticize us perform a remarkable act of friendship, for to undertake to wound or offer
· If you have no critics you'll likely have no success.
· I criticize by creation, not by finding fault
Thursday, December 18, 2008
The week before Christmas.....
I've just set up my Christmas tree today, which is consider very late as I used to do the setup early Dec every year.
I am a bit lazy this year round and was contemplating whether to put up the tree or not. Then I told myself since I'm going to Singapore mid Dec for training, I would see if I could get any nice ornaments for my tree. Seriously, all the ornaments sold in Malaysia are rather disappointing, hence if I can get a few nice pieces in SG, I'll put up the tree when I'm back.
Due to time constraint I didn't have much time to shop so I ended up with only 3 ornaments and a small reindeer made from brown straws. Though I didn't bought much, it is motivated enough for me to lift up my lazy butt and get the tree done. :)
I do feel extra charitable this year and really in the mood to love & share. :) Speaking of which, this weekend I must go and buy some groceries and give away to an orphanage in PJ before Christmas.
There are still many more Christmas gifts not bought yet and I'm a real sucker in buying gifts. LOLs.... I've always prefer to give cash so that that person can buy what he/she really wants instead of sometimes stuck with something that they do not need or like. But then, it will totally defeat the purpose coz even for myself I don't think I'll take the money to buy myself a gift if some one would have given me RM50/-. I probably spend it on a Steak or Lamp Chop instead. Yummmmm... talking about food, now I'm thinking of turkey & roast lamb. Hahahahahaha...
Some friends have asked if I'm gonna have open house this year, oh well, I still can't decide yet. Like I said earlier, I am feeling kind of lazy this year. :D
The snowman & reindeer hail from SG
Love this puppet. The hands can move
The fatty Santa-Claus
This is a reindeer sock given by an old friend some years back.
I placed the fella on my LCD tv the peekaboo style.
I am a bit lazy this year round and was contemplating whether to put up the tree or not. Then I told myself since I'm going to Singapore mid Dec for training, I would see if I could get any nice ornaments for my tree. Seriously, all the ornaments sold in Malaysia are rather disappointing, hence if I can get a few nice pieces in SG, I'll put up the tree when I'm back.
Due to time constraint I didn't have much time to shop so I ended up with only 3 ornaments and a small reindeer made from brown straws. Though I didn't bought much, it is motivated enough for me to lift up my lazy butt and get the tree done. :)
I do feel extra charitable this year and really in the mood to love & share. :) Speaking of which, this weekend I must go and buy some groceries and give away to an orphanage in PJ before Christmas.
There are still many more Christmas gifts not bought yet and I'm a real sucker in buying gifts. LOLs.... I've always prefer to give cash so that that person can buy what he/she really wants instead of sometimes stuck with something that they do not need or like. But then, it will totally defeat the purpose coz even for myself I don't think I'll take the money to buy myself a gift if some one would have given me RM50/-. I probably spend it on a Steak or Lamp Chop instead. Yummmmm... talking about food, now I'm thinking of turkey & roast lamb. Hahahahahaha...
Some friends have asked if I'm gonna have open house this year, oh well, I still can't decide yet. Like I said earlier, I am feeling kind of lazy this year. :D
This is the little reindeer from SG
The snowman & reindeer hail from SG
Love this puppet. The hands can move
The fatty Santa-ClausThis is a reindeer sock given by an old friend some years back.I placed the fella on my LCD tv the peekaboo style.
Monday, December 01, 2008
Coming to the end of year 2008
Today is the first day of the last month in year 2008.
Looking back the past 11 months, it has been a very eventful year in both my personal and working lives. There were certainly good and bad but whatever happened are all in the past and all I can say is to learn from the mistake and try not to repeat it again.
Meanwhile, I can't wait for Christmas to come and then it will be the brand new year of 2009. Christmas always make me feel warmth, happy and complacent. :) But then again, who wouldn't like Christmas?!?!?!
For I do not know what to expect in the days to come but I'll just cross my fingers and pray for the best to happen.
I know HE has a plan for me just like HE does for everyone else. So, I'm gonna take one day at a time and see what comes my way...
Looking back the past 11 months, it has been a very eventful year in both my personal and working lives. There were certainly good and bad but whatever happened are all in the past and all I can say is to learn from the mistake and try not to repeat it again.
Meanwhile, I can't wait for Christmas to come and then it will be the brand new year of 2009. Christmas always make me feel warmth, happy and complacent. :) But then again, who wouldn't like Christmas?!?!?!
For I do not know what to expect in the days to come but I'll just cross my fingers and pray for the best to happen.
I know HE has a plan for me just like HE does for everyone else. So, I'm gonna take one day at a time and see what comes my way...
Monday, November 24, 2008
Waterproof is not enough…
These days the market is swamped with all the ‘waterproof’ mascara which promises to stay put where it won't run, smear or smudge and a quick-dissolve system that helps in easy removal.
I’ve tried a few brands of mascara myself and I would say most of the waterproof mascara is doing quite a fair job on normal circumstances when you don’t sweat or cry per say.
‘Waterproof’ should not be the only agent found in mascara. Seriously, how often do we splash our face with water when we have our make up on (besides when we are ready to remove the makeup) or running around in the rain? The more likelihood for our eyes to get in touch with water compound would be either sweat or tears. Hence, mascara should be made tear-proof & sweat-proof as well.
Because I’m sure all the ladies out there would agree with me that no matter how expensive the mascara is and how good the brand claimed their mascara in waterproofing, the very fact is the moment you sweat or especially when you cry you’ll have Panda-eyes in no time.
This is because water in general contains minerals while tear fluid contains chemicals like lipids & urea and sweat (also called Perspiration) contains various dissolved solids (chiefly chlorides), odorants 2-methylphenol (o-cresol) and 4-methylphenol (p-cresol), which are stronger solvent than the water itself.
I’m not sure the scientists have the above in mind when they formulate the waterproof mascara but base on the experience, I have not found one that can resist sweat or tears.
I’m not sure if it is viable to make the mascara tear-proof and sweat-proof, but if it does it will be good news for the ladies.
I’ve tried a few brands of mascara myself and I would say most of the waterproof mascara is doing quite a fair job on normal circumstances when you don’t sweat or cry per say.
‘Waterproof’ should not be the only agent found in mascara. Seriously, how often do we splash our face with water when we have our make up on (besides when we are ready to remove the makeup) or running around in the rain? The more likelihood for our eyes to get in touch with water compound would be either sweat or tears. Hence, mascara should be made tear-proof & sweat-proof as well.
Because I’m sure all the ladies out there would agree with me that no matter how expensive the mascara is and how good the brand claimed their mascara in waterproofing, the very fact is the moment you sweat or especially when you cry you’ll have Panda-eyes in no time.
This is because water in general contains minerals while tear fluid contains chemicals like lipids & urea and sweat (also called Perspiration) contains various dissolved solids (chiefly chlorides), odorants 2-methylphenol (o-cresol) and 4-methylphenol (p-cresol), which are stronger solvent than the water itself.
I’m not sure the scientists have the above in mind when they formulate the waterproof mascara but base on the experience, I have not found one that can resist sweat or tears.
I’m not sure if it is viable to make the mascara tear-proof and sweat-proof, but if it does it will be good news for the ladies.
Tuesday, November 04, 2008
It Ain't That Kind Of Diary...
I don't know these days if anyone still write diary coz i think more and more people are blogging online these days.
I used to have a small little diary with all my little naughty secrets during my teenage years, but I have long destroyed it for my own good. ;) LOLs...
Writing a diary is something personal, it's something between yourself and the little 'black' book. On the other hand, blogging is a very open and public thing where you write about things you don't mind to share with others. Because it is so open, you can't really blog about your secrets (not unless you go anonymous) coz seriously unless you are some porn star or someone who do not care about anything, you wouldn't want people to know about your dark secrets which will affect your public image.
You don't see people writing about their sex adventure, criminal experience and etc. publicly with their real identity or picture in their site coz there are many people in their lives need to be protected apart from themselves. They can only do it anonymously so no one know who are the real person behind all the exciting (and could be offensive) stories.
I have never dare to write anything and everything in my mind coz I know some issues are very sensitive and I might get myself into trouble if it is publish on the net. No doubt we could argue that it is our blog and there is freedom of speech, but reality sings a different tune. That's why I end up sometimes not updating my blog for a long time coz I've filtered a lot and only share what I think is safe to share.
But I think blogging is more fun, anonymous or not, coz you get to share your views with others and sometimes you might get some really constructive opinions from different people perspectives and that help us to widen our mindset and the way we see things in life. :)
I used to have a small little diary with all my little naughty secrets during my teenage years, but I have long destroyed it for my own good. ;) LOLs...
Writing a diary is something personal, it's something between yourself and the little 'black' book. On the other hand, blogging is a very open and public thing where you write about things you don't mind to share with others. Because it is so open, you can't really blog about your secrets (not unless you go anonymous) coz seriously unless you are some porn star or someone who do not care about anything, you wouldn't want people to know about your dark secrets which will affect your public image.
You don't see people writing about their sex adventure, criminal experience and etc. publicly with their real identity or picture in their site coz there are many people in their lives need to be protected apart from themselves. They can only do it anonymously so no one know who are the real person behind all the exciting (and could be offensive) stories.
I have never dare to write anything and everything in my mind coz I know some issues are very sensitive and I might get myself into trouble if it is publish on the net. No doubt we could argue that it is our blog and there is freedom of speech, but reality sings a different tune. That's why I end up sometimes not updating my blog for a long time coz I've filtered a lot and only share what I think is safe to share.
But I think blogging is more fun, anonymous or not, coz you get to share your views with others and sometimes you might get some really constructive opinions from different people perspectives and that help us to widen our mindset and the way we see things in life. :)
Wednesday, October 29, 2008
Combating Water-Retention....
Do you have water retention problem?
Well, I'm one of the victims of this disaster. I've been having a pair of big thighs from young and have tried many ways to slim down the extra fat stored in that problem area for many years, but no matter what I did both my legs still look swell and puffy.
Keith & I have been into fruits juice frenzy lately and we have tried different combination of fruits. So far, his favourite is Banana-Orange and myself prefer to have variety so I will have different combination every now and then.
Somehow, I stumbled across a formula that helps to combat my water retention problem (I can only speak for myself coz I don’t know if it will give the same effect to others).
The combination is 2 apples and 1 carrot. I wasn’t very sure at first but I’ve tried and then I stop and then I try again, and seems like it really works.
So, for those of you out there who may have the same problem as me, do try it and let me know if it works for you. J
You never know, all the ‘fat’ you‘ve been trying to shed might actually be ‘water’.
Well, I'm one of the victims of this disaster. I've been having a pair of big thighs from young and have tried many ways to slim down the extra fat stored in that problem area for many years, but no matter what I did both my legs still look swell and puffy.
Keith & I have been into fruits juice frenzy lately and we have tried different combination of fruits. So far, his favourite is Banana-Orange and myself prefer to have variety so I will have different combination every now and then.
Somehow, I stumbled across a formula that helps to combat my water retention problem (I can only speak for myself coz I don’t know if it will give the same effect to others).
The combination is 2 apples and 1 carrot. I wasn’t very sure at first but I’ve tried and then I stop and then I try again, and seems like it really works.
So, for those of you out there who may have the same problem as me, do try it and let me know if it works for you. J
You never know, all the ‘fat’ you‘ve been trying to shed might actually be ‘water’.
Tuesday, October 21, 2008
I'm Wondering...
Time is passing.... things are changing... people are moving forward...
Change is good. But too much changes in a short period of time is somehow unhealthy. Before you can grasp what really going on, things change again.
I wonder when will things be stabilised...and I wonder what is in store for me here. I can only play by ears and hope for the best. Meanwhile, I can only do what I do best and wait to be twirled into the next wave of change, again.
Change is good. But too much changes in a short period of time is somehow unhealthy. Before you can grasp what really going on, things change again.
I wonder when will things be stabilised...and I wonder what is in store for me here. I can only play by ears and hope for the best. Meanwhile, I can only do what I do best and wait to be twirled into the next wave of change, again.
Wednesday, September 24, 2008
Marriage With A Sense of Humour
Something nice to share....
I recently read that love is entirely a matter of chemistry. That must be why my wife treats me like toxic waste. David Bissonette
When a man steals your wife, there is no better revenge than to let him keep her. Sacha Guitry
After marriage, husband and wife become two sides of a coin; they just can't face each other, but still they stay together. Hemant Joshi
By all means marry. If you get a good wife, you'll be happy. If you get a bad one, you'll become a philosopher. Socrates
Woman inspires us to great things, and prevents us from achieving them. Dumas
The great question... which I have not been able to answer... is, "What does a woman want? Sigmund Freud
I had some words with my wife, and she had some paragraphs with me. Anonymous
"Some people ask the secret of our long marriage. We take time to go to a restaurant two times a week. A little candlelight, dinner, soft music and dancing. She goes Tuesdays, I go Fridays." Henny Youngman
"I don't worry about terrorism. I was married for two years." Sam Kinison
"There's a way of transferring funds that is even faster than electronic banking. It's called marriage." James Holt McGavran
"I've had bad luck with both my wives. The first one left me, and the second one didn't." Patrick Murray
Two secrets to keep your marriage brimming
1. Whenever you're wrong, admit it,
2. Whenever you're right, shut up. Nash
The most effective way to remember your wife's birthday is to forget it once... Anonymous
You know what I did before I married? Anything I wanted to. Henny Youngman
My wife and I were happy for twenty years. Then we met. Rodney Dangerfield
A good wife always forgives her husband when she's wrong. Milton Berle
Marriage is the only war where one sleeps with the enemy. Anonymous
A man inserted an 'ad' in the classifieds: "Wife wanted". Next day he received a hundred letters. They all said the same thing: "You can have mine." Anonymous
First Guy (proudly): "My wife's an angel!" Second Guy: "You're lucky, mine's still alive."
Hahahaha....
I recently read that love is entirely a matter of chemistry. That must be why my wife treats me like toxic waste. David Bissonette
When a man steals your wife, there is no better revenge than to let him keep her. Sacha Guitry
After marriage, husband and wife become two sides of a coin; they just can't face each other, but still they stay together. Hemant Joshi
By all means marry. If you get a good wife, you'll be happy. If you get a bad one, you'll become a philosopher. Socrates
Woman inspires us to great things, and prevents us from achieving them. Dumas
The great question... which I have not been able to answer... is, "What does a woman want? Sigmund Freud
I had some words with my wife, and she had some paragraphs with me. Anonymous
"Some people ask the secret of our long marriage. We take time to go to a restaurant two times a week. A little candlelight, dinner, soft music and dancing. She goes Tuesdays, I go Fridays." Henny Youngman
"I don't worry about terrorism. I was married for two years." Sam Kinison
"There's a way of transferring funds that is even faster than electronic banking. It's called marriage." James Holt McGavran
"I've had bad luck with both my wives. The first one left me, and the second one didn't." Patrick Murray
Two secrets to keep your marriage brimming
1. Whenever you're wrong, admit it,
2. Whenever you're right, shut up. Nash
The most effective way to remember your wife's birthday is to forget it once... Anonymous
You know what I did before I married? Anything I wanted to. Henny Youngman
My wife and I were happy for twenty years. Then we met. Rodney Dangerfield
A good wife always forgives her husband when she's wrong. Milton Berle
Marriage is the only war where one sleeps with the enemy. Anonymous
A man inserted an 'ad' in the classifieds: "Wife wanted". Next day he received a hundred letters. They all said the same thing: "You can have mine." Anonymous
First Guy (proudly): "My wife's an angel!" Second Guy: "You're lucky, mine's still alive."
Hahahaha....
Friday, September 12, 2008
I don't know...hmmm
Mmmm....there's an Indian girl from another department in my company, told me something I've never heard before in my life. You seem we see each other very often as we are sharing the same office space but we never talk. We usually just smile and walk pass each other.
I bumped into her in the lift today and I started the conversation by asking her name and I told her mine. And there she went, "You look like Kate Moss". :)
I was like, "Huh?", and she repeated again, "You look like Kate Moss. Has anyone told you that?". I was stunned and muttered, "Is it?", and she replied, "Ya, I've been wanting to tell you that you look like Kate Moss". And I just laughed and shrugged it off.
Seriously I don't know whether it was an insult or a compliment...hmmm... well, I think it's really depends on how we see it. Personally, I don't think Kate Moss is pretty, hot or attractive. She looks very plain Jane to me and a bit of unusual look. Not that I think myself pretty, which I don't.
Oh well, perhaps it is a compliment as I'm being told that I look like a super model. hahaha.... guess have to interpret it this way to comfort myself. :P
I bumped into her in the lift today and I started the conversation by asking her name and I told her mine. And there she went, "You look like Kate Moss". :)
I was like, "Huh?", and she repeated again, "You look like Kate Moss. Has anyone told you that?". I was stunned and muttered, "Is it?", and she replied, "Ya, I've been wanting to tell you that you look like Kate Moss". And I just laughed and shrugged it off.
Seriously I don't know whether it was an insult or a compliment...hmmm... well, I think it's really depends on how we see it. Personally, I don't think Kate Moss is pretty, hot or attractive. She looks very plain Jane to me and a bit of unusual look. Not that I think myself pretty, which I don't.
Oh well, perhaps it is a compliment as I'm being told that I look like a super model. hahaha.... guess have to interpret it this way to comfort myself. :P
Thursday, September 11, 2008
My Bestest Birthday....
10th Sep 2008. This is the day....my birthday. :)
And I had the best birthday celebration ever last nite well planned by my darling and my beloved friends. I never expected someone would throw me a surprise party (though I did dream about it years ago) and it was like a dream come true.
It was truly the most memorable and wonderful birthday I had in my life and I'm grateful for everything & everyone God has blessed me with. As I know I'm truly being loved and cared by so many people. :)
My poor darling was so nervous about the whole thing for the past one month, "it was all worthy", he said. I think now a lot of girls envy me already. :P
I want to thank my darling for his loving and sweet effort in planning this whole thing and also to my friends who attended (& those who couldn't make it) the party to celebrate my birthday.
I'll always remember this special day...but now...I have a problem......HOW AM I GOING TO OUTDO my darling and give him a better birthday than this?!??!?
Psst... pls mssg me in private if you have any good ideas to share. ;)
Love ya all...
And I had the best birthday celebration ever last nite well planned by my darling and my beloved friends. I never expected someone would throw me a surprise party (though I did dream about it years ago) and it was like a dream come true.
It was truly the most memorable and wonderful birthday I had in my life and I'm grateful for everything & everyone God has blessed me with. As I know I'm truly being loved and cared by so many people. :)
My poor darling was so nervous about the whole thing for the past one month, "it was all worthy", he said. I think now a lot of girls envy me already. :P
I want to thank my darling for his loving and sweet effort in planning this whole thing and also to my friends who attended (& those who couldn't make it) the party to celebrate my birthday.
I'll always remember this special day...but now...I have a problem......HOW AM I GOING TO OUTDO my darling and give him a better birthday than this?!??!?
Psst... pls mssg me in private if you have any good ideas to share. ;)
Love ya all...
Monday, September 01, 2008
Compare Not...
I just came back from a 3 days 2 nights company team building on Sunday. Well, people who attended team building before knew exactly what is it like. There are always few programs planned out for the participants and each activity meant to find out how every individual can work together as a team and to learn the importance of teamwork.
It is always fun when we get to go for this sort of company trip where you get to interact with your colleagues in different environment and get to learn about your co-workers from a different perspective and discover the different side of each individuals.
Often it is through work and playing games that require teamwork, you get to see the true character of a person. I often find it very interesting and it is one of my great interest to study and observe people's behaviours in different conditions and when they play different roles in their daily lives, i.e. son, father/mother, co-worker, employee, superior, friend, and so on.
We do not determine the success of team building by how much the participants enjoyed the games or how much fun we had with one another but rather what has everyone learnt from those team building activities by understanding the true spirit and meaning of teamwork. Teamwork is not about being the first to finish the task; it is about how different people from all walks of life come together and put away the differences among each other to compromise and works to achieve the same goal the most effective way.
One thing I've observed in my daily lives and even more so during the past few days was, people like to compare themselves with others and complaining about what disadvantages they have, and they give excuses for why they are unable to achieve the same or do better than others due to the shortfalls they have. Often in life, we waste too much time in comparing and grumbling about our unfavorable condition, and we lose sight on what we already have. We focus too much on the 'If only I have …, I will be able to achieve the same or do better' instead of focusing on how we can make do with what we have and turn the disadvantage to an advantage.
Like it or not, life is unfair. But how do we come about to decide whether we are on the advantage or disadvantage side? It is when we start to compare. There is no such things as who is having the upper hand or not if we never compare. It’s because we compare and sometimes we found that we lack of what others have and perceive what we don’t have as a disadvantage and we use it as excuses to ourselves and to others.
For instance, A is given 1000 dollars and B is given 2000 dollars. Both are told to use the money to invest and sell the same product. Who do you think will make the most profit after one month? Naturally, majority would answer B (without much thought). Why B? Well, standard answer would be, because B was given 1000 dollars more than A and B would be able to buy more stock and sell more so logically B would makes more money. Correct? Yes and no.
Even A was given 1000 dollars less than B doesn’t mean A would lose to B, because it is not merely about who has more goods or better product to sell but many factors to define the success or failure. The packaging, how you market & promote, target consumers and price, all these play a big role. If A does it right he could easily make more money than B.
It’s only when we learnt to stop comparing ourselves to others and focusing on how to make the best out of what we already have, then only we will be able to achieve more in life. We do not live by other people standard because we should be the one to set our own standard. Always remember that the only person we need to compete with is ourselves. The greatest achievement in life is not by how many people we have defeated but how much we can out do ourselves by achieving more than what we think we could and living larger than who we think we are.
I was a little upset this morning coz I started to think about how people always perceive me and misunderstood me. I don’t know, perhaps in some people eyes, I’m like a bimbo who is spoilt, shallow and do not know how to do housework and cook and that makes me feel like I am good for nothing as I start thinking and comparing myself to other people. But then Keith told me that I should stop thinking and caring too much about how other people see or think about me. I allowed all that to affect me and I end up lost sight of people who appreciate me and look up to me for who I really am.
So should I do something to convince people that they are wrong about me? Oh well, I’m not going to bother. If people want to judge me without trying to know me better so be it, coz I live my life for no one but myself and my love ones, I’m answerable to no one but God. As long as I’m true to myself and live my life to the fullest, I don’t have to prove myself to anyone. After all, I know myself best. I am who I am and I’m damn proud of it.
Quotes to share:
“Individual commitment to a group effort - that is what makes a team work, a company work, a society work, a civilization work”
“Coming together is a beginning. Keeping together is progress. Working together is success”
“Regardless of differences, we strive shoulder to shoulder... Teamwork can be summed up in five short words: "We believe in each other."
“Public opinion is a weak tyrant, compared with our private opinion - what a man thinks of himself, that is which determines, or rather indicates his fate”
“If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain and bitter, for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself”
It is always fun when we get to go for this sort of company trip where you get to interact with your colleagues in different environment and get to learn about your co-workers from a different perspective and discover the different side of each individuals.
Often it is through work and playing games that require teamwork, you get to see the true character of a person. I often find it very interesting and it is one of my great interest to study and observe people's behaviours in different conditions and when they play different roles in their daily lives, i.e. son, father/mother, co-worker, employee, superior, friend, and so on.
We do not determine the success of team building by how much the participants enjoyed the games or how much fun we had with one another but rather what has everyone learnt from those team building activities by understanding the true spirit and meaning of teamwork. Teamwork is not about being the first to finish the task; it is about how different people from all walks of life come together and put away the differences among each other to compromise and works to achieve the same goal the most effective way.
One thing I've observed in my daily lives and even more so during the past few days was, people like to compare themselves with others and complaining about what disadvantages they have, and they give excuses for why they are unable to achieve the same or do better than others due to the shortfalls they have. Often in life, we waste too much time in comparing and grumbling about our unfavorable condition, and we lose sight on what we already have. We focus too much on the 'If only I have …, I will be able to achieve the same or do better' instead of focusing on how we can make do with what we have and turn the disadvantage to an advantage.
Like it or not, life is unfair. But how do we come about to decide whether we are on the advantage or disadvantage side? It is when we start to compare. There is no such things as who is having the upper hand or not if we never compare. It’s because we compare and sometimes we found that we lack of what others have and perceive what we don’t have as a disadvantage and we use it as excuses to ourselves and to others.
For instance, A is given 1000 dollars and B is given 2000 dollars. Both are told to use the money to invest and sell the same product. Who do you think will make the most profit after one month? Naturally, majority would answer B (without much thought). Why B? Well, standard answer would be, because B was given 1000 dollars more than A and B would be able to buy more stock and sell more so logically B would makes more money. Correct? Yes and no.
Even A was given 1000 dollars less than B doesn’t mean A would lose to B, because it is not merely about who has more goods or better product to sell but many factors to define the success or failure. The packaging, how you market & promote, target consumers and price, all these play a big role. If A does it right he could easily make more money than B.
It’s only when we learnt to stop comparing ourselves to others and focusing on how to make the best out of what we already have, then only we will be able to achieve more in life. We do not live by other people standard because we should be the one to set our own standard. Always remember that the only person we need to compete with is ourselves. The greatest achievement in life is not by how many people we have defeated but how much we can out do ourselves by achieving more than what we think we could and living larger than who we think we are.
I was a little upset this morning coz I started to think about how people always perceive me and misunderstood me. I don’t know, perhaps in some people eyes, I’m like a bimbo who is spoilt, shallow and do not know how to do housework and cook and that makes me feel like I am good for nothing as I start thinking and comparing myself to other people. But then Keith told me that I should stop thinking and caring too much about how other people see or think about me. I allowed all that to affect me and I end up lost sight of people who appreciate me and look up to me for who I really am.
So should I do something to convince people that they are wrong about me? Oh well, I’m not going to bother. If people want to judge me without trying to know me better so be it, coz I live my life for no one but myself and my love ones, I’m answerable to no one but God. As long as I’m true to myself and live my life to the fullest, I don’t have to prove myself to anyone. After all, I know myself best. I am who I am and I’m damn proud of it.
Quotes to share:
“Individual commitment to a group effort - that is what makes a team work, a company work, a society work, a civilization work”
“Coming together is a beginning. Keeping together is progress. Working together is success”
“Regardless of differences, we strive shoulder to shoulder... Teamwork can be summed up in five short words: "We believe in each other."
“Public opinion is a weak tyrant, compared with our private opinion - what a man thinks of himself, that is which determines, or rather indicates his fate”
“If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain and bitter, for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself”
Monday, August 11, 2008
A Love like This
Ok, I’m not trying to brag or show off but people who know me & my hubby or people who have seen us can really tell how much my hubby loves me and cares for me. I can safely say that I am one of the luckiest girls in the world. Coz not only I have a loving husband, I’m also blessed with awesome in-laws plus all the relatives.
Through out the 6 years of relationship, there were many challenges in our marriage and I’m glad that we’ve manage to go through every obstacle together, Well, I have to admit that I’m the weaker one in love relationship coz usually when things don’t go well, I often try to seek the easy way out, but through him (my hubby), I’ve the chance to witness and learned a lot about the Love of God.
I always believe God works through people. For He always plant little seeds of thoughts and ideas in people’s hearts and minds, and make us carry out HIS work without even noticing it.
Both of us had our downfalls in these past years and while God knows that I’m the weaker one, HE made my hubby even stronger, not only for himself but for both of us in this marriage. When my hubby fell, God gave him self realisation and made him fight for this marriage in silence (without me knowing) and make it even stronger than before. And when it was my turn to fall recently, God made him even stronger and wiser in order to pull me up and support me again and again as I kept failing him. And yet, he did not give me up. He continues to support me as my hubby, my soul mate and my best friend. For I’m certain that given the same scenario most people would have walk out from it long ago.
Seriously, I have never seen someone quite like him. His love for me is unconditional, just like God. His love truly amaze me coz I’ve never ever dare to dream of meeting someone like him. He has been with me through thick and thin, rain and shine, even during my ugliest moment due to my horrible breakouts, he has never once felt ashamed of how I look when he went out with me. He was only upset when people stared at me strangely for he knows it hurts my feelings and self esteem.
He has always been very protective of me and treated me like a little princess and he has always put me before himself. We have always shared a very unique relationship and special bonding. We are not merely husband and wife, we are also soul mate and best friends, because sometimes when situation is tense between us as husband and wife, we always have the ability to switch to the role as friends to analyse things and to give our opinions as how a friend is expected to be and solve our problems together. We never need to confide or share our problems to other people to seek advice or sort coz we are each other best friend and we have the ability to play different roles in this relationship whenever it suits.
Sometimes, I really think that I don’t deserve him but then I believe I must have done something wonderful (though I don’t know what is it) for God to love me so much and give me such a wonderful husband and everything that comes along with it.
I’ve always been very proud of him as my hubby not only for who he is and what he has achieved so far but I know that no one would ever loves me like he does and I want to make him proud of me (not that he is not) and love him the way no one else can.
I love you my dear and sorry for being such a fool. Thank you for not giving me up, thank you for not giving us up. It is truly a great blessing & honour to be your wife, soul mate and best friend in this lifetime.
Through out the 6 years of relationship, there were many challenges in our marriage and I’m glad that we’ve manage to go through every obstacle together, Well, I have to admit that I’m the weaker one in love relationship coz usually when things don’t go well, I often try to seek the easy way out, but through him (my hubby), I’ve the chance to witness and learned a lot about the Love of God.
I always believe God works through people. For He always plant little seeds of thoughts and ideas in people’s hearts and minds, and make us carry out HIS work without even noticing it.
Both of us had our downfalls in these past years and while God knows that I’m the weaker one, HE made my hubby even stronger, not only for himself but for both of us in this marriage. When my hubby fell, God gave him self realisation and made him fight for this marriage in silence (without me knowing) and make it even stronger than before. And when it was my turn to fall recently, God made him even stronger and wiser in order to pull me up and support me again and again as I kept failing him. And yet, he did not give me up. He continues to support me as my hubby, my soul mate and my best friend. For I’m certain that given the same scenario most people would have walk out from it long ago.
Seriously, I have never seen someone quite like him. His love for me is unconditional, just like God. His love truly amaze me coz I’ve never ever dare to dream of meeting someone like him. He has been with me through thick and thin, rain and shine, even during my ugliest moment due to my horrible breakouts, he has never once felt ashamed of how I look when he went out with me. He was only upset when people stared at me strangely for he knows it hurts my feelings and self esteem.
He has always been very protective of me and treated me like a little princess and he has always put me before himself. We have always shared a very unique relationship and special bonding. We are not merely husband and wife, we are also soul mate and best friends, because sometimes when situation is tense between us as husband and wife, we always have the ability to switch to the role as friends to analyse things and to give our opinions as how a friend is expected to be and solve our problems together. We never need to confide or share our problems to other people to seek advice or sort coz we are each other best friend and we have the ability to play different roles in this relationship whenever it suits.
Sometimes, I really think that I don’t deserve him but then I believe I must have done something wonderful (though I don’t know what is it) for God to love me so much and give me such a wonderful husband and everything that comes along with it.
I’ve always been very proud of him as my hubby not only for who he is and what he has achieved so far but I know that no one would ever loves me like he does and I want to make him proud of me (not that he is not) and love him the way no one else can.
I love you my dear and sorry for being such a fool. Thank you for not giving me up, thank you for not giving us up. It is truly a great blessing & honour to be your wife, soul mate and best friend in this lifetime.
Thursday, July 24, 2008
Lie No More...
For if I ever have any doubt whether God really exists, I truly know He does now.
It is funny how sometimes we human think that we can actually outsmart everyone and everything, yes even God.
When people lie and cheat, they always think that they have the best lies and if they are careful enough, no one would ever find out about it. But, that is not true at all. No matter how careful you planned or try to hide the evident, somehow, the truth would creep out from the closet and cry for justice. God always has his unique and unthinkable ways to expose all the falsehood.
Seriously, unless one is truly meant to cheat with no remorse, apart from the wariness of getting caught, one would definitely have the mix feelings of guilt, frustration and awkwardness. And all that would slowly give you away as it’s would somehow affect the way you act toward that someone you are lying to or cheating on.
Even you are really good in acting normal and do not raise any suspicion; however, God still has his way to strip you off and disclose the naked truth. Because when one cheats, you will need to tell a lie, and in order to cover that lie, you might need to tell another lie, and so forth…. And that’s where you would put yourself on the frying pan as the numbers of lies pile up, you would definitely slip-up here and there (unless you write down every single lie you told) and there’s where you are BUSTED!!!
The truth is no one can ever get away with any treachery as God would always work his miracle way to expose us.
Quotes to share:
You can bend it and twist it... You can misuse and abuse it... But even God cannot change the Truth
A lie never lives to be old
The end of an ox is beef, and the end of a lie is grief.
Unless your heart, your soul, and your whole being are behind every decision you make, the words from your mouth will be empty, and each action will be meaningless. Truth and confidence are the roots of happiness.
It is funny how sometimes we human think that we can actually outsmart everyone and everything, yes even God.
When people lie and cheat, they always think that they have the best lies and if they are careful enough, no one would ever find out about it. But, that is not true at all. No matter how careful you planned or try to hide the evident, somehow, the truth would creep out from the closet and cry for justice. God always has his unique and unthinkable ways to expose all the falsehood.
Seriously, unless one is truly meant to cheat with no remorse, apart from the wariness of getting caught, one would definitely have the mix feelings of guilt, frustration and awkwardness. And all that would slowly give you away as it’s would somehow affect the way you act toward that someone you are lying to or cheating on.
Even you are really good in acting normal and do not raise any suspicion; however, God still has his way to strip you off and disclose the naked truth. Because when one cheats, you will need to tell a lie, and in order to cover that lie, you might need to tell another lie, and so forth…. And that’s where you would put yourself on the frying pan as the numbers of lies pile up, you would definitely slip-up here and there (unless you write down every single lie you told) and there’s where you are BUSTED!!!
The truth is no one can ever get away with any treachery as God would always work his miracle way to expose us.
Quotes to share:
You can bend it and twist it... You can misuse and abuse it... But even God cannot change the Truth
A lie never lives to be old
The end of an ox is beef, and the end of a lie is grief.
Unless your heart, your soul, and your whole being are behind every decision you make, the words from your mouth will be empty, and each action will be meaningless. Truth and confidence are the roots of happiness.
Monday, July 14, 2008
What's Your Impression of Me???
Could it be the way I speak? Or the way I walk? Maybe the way I carry myself? Or it's just everything that I've projected to the eyes of the others????
People's usual first impression of me is 'soft'. Well, feminine & soft I am, but then, it doesn't mean that I don't get my hands dirty. Often when I talk to people, they would be very surprise when they found out that I can cook, YES, I can!!! I've been cooking since I was 12. So you people please stop acting so shock and ask me in a high pitch "You can cook?!?!!?" or say stuff like " What's your best dish? Fried egg?" (so sarcastic, huh!).
Besides, there are many also think that I'm well pampered that I do not do any housework. (probably because people often think Keith has over-pampered me). Sigh....I'm not that rich, so if I don't do the housework, who's gonna do it? Me & Keith always share the house chores. I usually do the vacuuming & mopping, while he does the dusting & wiping. I even clean the toilet bowl you know. :P
I may look soft, feminine, fragile and perhaps childish at times on the outside, but I am an inter-dependant, tough and mature lady inside. I am just being myself and behave like how a lady should behave. In fact, by the way I was brought up, it's a surprise that I didn't turn out to be a tomboy.
People's usual first impression of me is 'soft'. Well, feminine & soft I am, but then, it doesn't mean that I don't get my hands dirty. Often when I talk to people, they would be very surprise when they found out that I can cook, YES, I can!!! I've been cooking since I was 12. So you people please stop acting so shock and ask me in a high pitch "You can cook?!?!!?" or say stuff like " What's your best dish? Fried egg?" (so sarcastic, huh!).
Besides, there are many also think that I'm well pampered that I do not do any housework. (probably because people often think Keith has over-pampered me). Sigh....I'm not that rich, so if I don't do the housework, who's gonna do it? Me & Keith always share the house chores. I usually do the vacuuming & mopping, while he does the dusting & wiping. I even clean the toilet bowl you know. :P
I may look soft, feminine, fragile and perhaps childish at times on the outside, but I am an inter-dependant, tough and mature lady inside. I am just being myself and behave like how a lady should behave. In fact, by the way I was brought up, it's a surprise that I didn't turn out to be a tomboy.
It's doesn't mean I'm acting or not being myself, but if you really get to know me well, you will know that I'm not the girly girl type as you think I am. ;)
Sunday, July 06, 2008
International Muay Thai Superfights - 05 July 2008
Me & Keith and two close friends of ours went for the International Muay Thai Superfights show at the Stadium Melawati in Shah Alam last night.
This is the first ever international fight event in Malaysia and I’m so glad that I actually asked Keith to watch this show with me coz it really worth every cent of it.
There was a female match and you really don’t want to mess with them as they are as aggressive as the men.
The last contenders match was between Thai and Scotland and it was the best fight of the night!!! Too bad the referee called off the match during the 4th round as the Thai guy was bleeding rather badly. It was such a waste but it was indeed a good fight. But there will be a rematch in this coming December as they are going to hold the Muay Thai grand Prix in KL again!!! Really can’t wait for the next event. J
While the organizer promised ‘PAIN Guaranteed’ and it did. The fights were so intense and we can really feel the pain coming from the punching & kicking between the fighters.
And the best thing is, we get to see them bleed…….errr…ok, I know I sound a bit sadist or psycho here but hey…that’s what everyone expect to see when come to this sort of sport, else it wouldn’t be real anymore…
It says no camera allowed at the entrance so at first Keith told me not to take any photo. But then I saw so many people use their phones and cameras snapping pictures openly, so I couldn’t be bothered and also snapping away. Hehehehe…
Here are some pictures to share with you guys who didn’t go for the event. J
http://www.muaythaisuperfights.com/
We snapped pics of Joe & Jen
Waiting to enter the stadium
The Ring
Stamp on Keith's arm
Stamp on my arm
The female match was nice as they were very aggressive
This is the Thai Champion
Some 'fleshy' show during the break.... :P
The blood splatters...COOL
The aftermath
This is the first ever international fight event in Malaysia and I’m so glad that I actually asked Keith to watch this show with me coz it really worth every cent of it.
There was a female match and you really don’t want to mess with them as they are as aggressive as the men.
The last contenders match was between Thai and Scotland and it was the best fight of the night!!! Too bad the referee called off the match during the 4th round as the Thai guy was bleeding rather badly. It was such a waste but it was indeed a good fight. But there will be a rematch in this coming December as they are going to hold the Muay Thai grand Prix in KL again!!! Really can’t wait for the next event. J
While the organizer promised ‘PAIN Guaranteed’ and it did. The fights were so intense and we can really feel the pain coming from the punching & kicking between the fighters.
And the best thing is, we get to see them bleed…….errr…ok, I know I sound a bit sadist or psycho here but hey…that’s what everyone expect to see when come to this sort of sport, else it wouldn’t be real anymore…
It says no camera allowed at the entrance so at first Keith told me not to take any photo. But then I saw so many people use their phones and cameras snapping pictures openly, so I couldn’t be bothered and also snapping away. Hehehehe…
Here are some pictures to share with you guys who didn’t go for the event. J
http://www.muaythaisuperfights.com/
We snapped pics of Joe & Jen
Waiting to enter the stadium
The Ring
Stamp on Keith's arm
Stamp on my arm
The female match was nice as they were very aggressive
This is the Thai Champion
Some 'fleshy' show during the break.... :P
The blood splatters...COOL
The aftermathIt's been so long....
Wah.... just realise I've not update my blog for more than a month already...... tsk tsk tsk....
Not that I have nothing interesting to blog about but I've been really busy and also lazy (this is actually the main reason :P) but guess I have to pick up the pace again. :)
So, Gambatte Lizzie!!!!
Not that I have nothing interesting to blog about but I've been really busy and also lazy (this is actually the main reason :P) but guess I have to pick up the pace again. :)
So, Gambatte Lizzie!!!!
Saturday, June 21, 2008
Busy....Lazy...
Hmmm...I've been very lazy again to update my blog lately . But at the same time it is because I'm also very busy with work and many things in my personal life.
Lots of things happened and there were up & down, joy & tears, some are rather dramatic, but I just feel so lazy to write them down. After much thoughts, I decided not to write anything abt it coz I really don't want to try to recall all the past incidents.
Need to reserve my brain juice for other stuff and not to think back what already happened.
Whatever happened I can't change, so just have to get going and move on with my life.....
Cheers!
Lots of things happened and there were up & down, joy & tears, some are rather dramatic, but I just feel so lazy to write them down. After much thoughts, I decided not to write anything abt it coz I really don't want to try to recall all the past incidents.
Need to reserve my brain juice for other stuff and not to think back what already happened.
Whatever happened I can't change, so just have to get going and move on with my life.....
Cheers!
Thursday, May 29, 2008
Just a funny thought...
Hmmm…something really puzzled me…
Why is it that when a group of guys (be it single or married) gather together over a drink or dinner, they can openly share their sexual adventure at those night club without feeling any shame or fear of words might travel back to their girl friends or wives.
It seems like a norm for guys to share and talks about it so much so it is often sounded like some great achievement or something to be proud of. Why wouldn’t guys feel shy about sharing their secret rendezvous like this??? Some even encourage their friends to go with them.
I wonder is there any female would gather and talk about their sexual adventure at all (just assume they do visit those night clubs and look for gigolos). The problem is, no matter how human beings have evolved, our perceptions never change on certain things.
While it is, well I wouldn’t say accepted but it is common to find guys who look for prostitutes and share about their experience with their peers, however, such behaviour are considered unaccepted and taboo for ladies.
I was just thinking, what if one day over a tea session or girls night out with my friends, just for the fun of it I suddenly say:”That day I hired a gigolo, his service was... blah blah blah...” I wonder how my friends will react. :D
But hey….I’ve never done any sort of that, just think it’s fun to see my friends’ reaction if I simply make up some story….kakakaka….
Why is it that when a group of guys (be it single or married) gather together over a drink or dinner, they can openly share their sexual adventure at those night club without feeling any shame or fear of words might travel back to their girl friends or wives.
It seems like a norm for guys to share and talks about it so much so it is often sounded like some great achievement or something to be proud of. Why wouldn’t guys feel shy about sharing their secret rendezvous like this??? Some even encourage their friends to go with them.
I wonder is there any female would gather and talk about their sexual adventure at all (just assume they do visit those night clubs and look for gigolos). The problem is, no matter how human beings have evolved, our perceptions never change on certain things.
While it is, well I wouldn’t say accepted but it is common to find guys who look for prostitutes and share about their experience with their peers, however, such behaviour are considered unaccepted and taboo for ladies.
I was just thinking, what if one day over a tea session or girls night out with my friends, just for the fun of it I suddenly say:”That day I hired a gigolo, his service was... blah blah blah...” I wonder how my friends will react. :D
But hey….I’ve never done any sort of that, just think it’s fun to see my friends’ reaction if I simply make up some story….kakakaka….
Monday, May 19, 2008
Good Bye, Jennifer...Have a peaceful journey
Got a bad news this morning that one of my hubby's close friend passed away on Sunday morning. It was a great shock to everyone coz it happened so sudden. I wasn't close to her but some years back we used to went out in a group for tea or short trip once in a while.
It is a sad thing as she was still so young (abt 30 yrs old) and the unborn child (it was a baby girl) were supposed to due in 2 weeks time. I won't go into details but it is truly a tragedy but then perhaps it was meant to be. I do not want to ask God why things turned out this way and I believe all things happened for a reason.
Our life is so short and no one can ever predict how long one gonna lives. It could be 5 years, 10 years, 20 years, 40 years or 80 years. We could die of sickness, accident or natural death. But all that are not important as it is beyond our control.
Life is fragile, hence, we should live like there is no tomorrow. Live life to its fullest, to loved and be loved, appreciate and cherish the things and people around us and to enjoy our life and do things that makes us happy so that we will have no regrets.
After all, we only live once in this life time.
My heart goes out to her husband, her parents and all her love ones. I pray that God would give them strength to be strong for each other.
Jennifer, you will always be loved & remembered.
Tuesday, May 13, 2008
Boring!!!!
Life has been quite boring lately. I've been doing more or less the same things day after day, week after week, month after month..sigh....no excitement at all....
But then again, this is life. It happens to everyone irregardless of race, religion, age & gender. There are ups & downs, sometimes it can be so exciting and as colourful as the rainbow, but sometimes it can be as dull as a dead fish.
Don't get me wrong. I am very happy and complacent with my life and everything I have..just that sometimes I do feel my life a bit bored and dull.
What can I do to make my live more exciting? Do more travelling? Try out bungee jumping, sky diving? hmmmm..I think should try out all these if I have the chance one day.
But then again, this is life. It happens to everyone irregardless of race, religion, age & gender. There are ups & downs, sometimes it can be so exciting and as colourful as the rainbow, but sometimes it can be as dull as a dead fish.
Don't get me wrong. I am very happy and complacent with my life and everything I have..just that sometimes I do feel my life a bit bored and dull.
What can I do to make my live more exciting? Do more travelling? Try out bungee jumping, sky diving? hmmmm..I think should try out all these if I have the chance one day.
Sunday, May 04, 2008
What the ......?!?!?
I received a lot of forwarded mails, chain mails, jokes and etc. as usual today but there was one particular mail with some pictures that really caught my attention.
I first find it kind of cute & innocently sweet when I saw the first picture, but as I continued to scroll down and saw the rest of the pictures, I scream in horror and was really upset. The first thought in my mind was, 'What our society and next generation has become?!?' Surely this two adorable kids which I guess aged about 5-6 years old saw all the actions somewhere and then they mimic the same.
It is sad to see this sort of things happened to children at such young innocent age. For all the parents out there, imagine if you see your son/daughter doing this. How would you feel? I mean, seriously, this sort of thing if happen to teenager I'm not surprise at all, but not at such tender age. :(
I first find it kind of cute & innocently sweet when I saw the first picture, but as I continued to scroll down and saw the rest of the pictures, I scream in horror and was really upset. The first thought in my mind was, 'What our society and next generation has become?!?' Surely this two adorable kids which I guess aged about 5-6 years old saw all the actions somewhere and then they mimic the same.
It is sad to see this sort of things happened to children at such young innocent age. For all the parents out there, imagine if you see your son/daughter doing this. How would you feel? I mean, seriously, this sort of thing if happen to teenager I'm not surprise at all, but not at such tender age. :(
You can clearly see that the little boy is putting his hand in the girl's pants. GOSH!!!
And his hand again inside her pants grabbing her butt!!!
Is he showing her his birdy??? I seriously don't dare to even imagine.... -_-
This is really sad and sick...... I really don't know how to react to it. If I'm the parent of these kids, I think I'll get heart attack.
This is really sad and sick...... I really don't know how to react to it. If I'm the parent of these kids, I think I'll get heart attack.
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