Nice to meet you....Love

You don't look for love. Love... just happens.

I had given up on Love once, but then.... Love has found me.

Everyone wants to love and be loved.

Love... is not about being with someone. Love... is knowing that someone is there for you whenever you need him/her. Love.. is that someone will always be there on standby even when you don't need them.

Love comes in many forms. To know Love is to Care.Even if you have stop loving someone intimately, that doesn't mean you have stop loving that person at once. As long you still care, you love. Difference is, that 'love' as evolved to a different kind of Love.

Sometimes, Love can be blind but Love is also a Choice. Falling Out of Love is as easy as falling in, if you let it. But, you can be in control and choose to Stay In Love.

Love is beautiful yet cunning. It might throws many challenges and temptations at you occasionally.

Love knows no boundaries. Race, age, gender, wealth, education, religion could not be used to measure love. Coz Love, knows non of them.

Love is Protective but isn't Possessive. Love knows contentment, not envy.

Love is a fragile little thing that requires careful nurturing with loads of patience, understanding, compromise, endurance, care and support.

Love is not selfish but it isn't selfless.

Love is unconditional. Though Love does not expect anything in return but it wishes to be loved back.

To Love others, we must first Love ourselves.

Love is as powerful as it is destructive. It can either make you a better person or the opposite. This is all depends on who and what you Love.

These are what I've learned about Love and how I interpret Love. :)

As I Was Saying.... The Book's Cover

Never judge a book by it's cover. This is what we have always been hearing or even reminded ourselves from time to time.

Judged a book (hypothetically), I did. It was a very funny incident happened 2 days ago during my company's Health Awareness Day. 

You see there were a few representatives came to the event from this fitness training center to gave us some demonstration on self defense techniques. There was a very small size lady and two muscular and fit young guys in their 20's. And there he was, a tall middle age man (he looks like in his late 40's) which is half bald at the front with a ponytail and he faced the audience (I was one of them) and gave an opening speech. To be honest, when I first lay eyes on him, he did gave me a bit of Chinese Kungfu Master kind of impression (base on characters I saw in those old HK movies/drama).

While he was talking, my colleague whispered to me, "Can he be the Master/Sifu?", and very quickly without even thinking for a second, I blurted out, "Cannot be. Coz he got a tummy there." (to be fair, it was just a very small tummy). And quickly, we turn our attention back to that man. He starts giving some introduction about himself and mentioning that he is the trainer of that 2 young guys I was mentioning earlier, and that he is 60 of age and he can do 1000 push up a day. Imagine the Ooohhh and Ahhhh (gasping sound) escaped from the audience' lips (which mostly were ladies) when he mentioned all that.

And there it begun....... both my colleagues immediately turned their head towards me and said, "Liz, you see, you look down on him, did you hear what he just said?!!!? I think he can kill you with just one finger ah!". And we all started giggling so loudly. Honestly, I felt so shy due to what I said earlier, but then it was all a joke. But my, that man was really a surprise. Didn't I mentioned he looks  40's? He is actually 60 years old!!!

My colleagues kept teasing me every now and then when that man demonstrating some acts. So in the end I succumb to my colleagues, "Okay, okay. My fault. I'm so sorry. I take back what I said earlier." (and I pretended to slap myself a few times). Seriously, I laughed so hard and I got tears in my eyes.

Actually the reason why I didn't expect him to be the trainer was because he doesn't really have those muscular physique which I usually see in those sports trainers (too much influenced by all the Kickboxing/MuayThai sports). :P

  

So yes, It's another theory proven that we should never judge a person base on their outlook. 

Enough said.

 

TOUGH

A small episode happened at work today due to some misunderstanding. And I was involved.

Given the same situation if it happened 2 years ago, I would have been so so upset and would have hid at a corner and cry silently. But what happened today did not affects me.I wasn't upset at all.

I am tougher now than I was 2 years ago. Guess my previous job role has offered a very good training ground for me to toughen up myself and to improve my EQ.

I still don't like to argue with people and usually the first one to keep quiet if I see the other party can't be reasoned with. But at least now, I don't get upset by all these minute stuffs.

Even if I've done wrong, I would apologize to the other party and move on coz I always believe let bygone be bygone. I do not hold any grudge towards anyone and I also hope no one does towards me.

And I choose to focus on all the happy and good things in life. Coz, the GOOD is Bigger than the bad.

Life can be tough. We just have to be tougher. :)

P/S : At the end all are good (I hope). :D

I've Changed but Yet The Same

I can tell you who I was. I can tell you who I am. But I can't tell you who I will be.

Everything that we are experiencing in our life changes the way we perceive things and the way we react to people and incidents from time to time.

Tomorrow I may dislike what I love today. Things which are so intolerable to me now may not bother me a single bit tomorrow.

Time is passing and we are changing constantly, every second, ever minute and everyday.

But no matter how much I've changed over the years, I am still....who I am. The core does not changed. Only my perceptions and approaches towards people and life itself have changed.

Why You No Like Me?!

Have you ever wonder why some people don't like you?!

Let's say you are the type that don't gossip about people, you always mind your own business and do your best not to comment much on anyone nor anything to minimize the chance of offending someone or something (What?!). And you are certain you don't do anything that might hurt or shortchange others for your own gain. And yet, not everyone likes you.

And then you keep wondering why is someone you know, who always seem to have much to comment/condemn about other people, the one always with the latest gossips practically about everyone you may or may not know. That someone, seems to be much more well receive by others than yourself.

Even if your are a very nice person, doesn't mean everyone would like you (sorry, I'm not implying I am a very nice person, though I like to believe I am, but I do have my own shortfalls and I know what they are). Likewise, even if you are a horrible/annoying person in certain aspects, not everybody would dislike you.

Everyone of us has our own personalities and we have our like and dislike. Sometimes even 'A' has never do anything bad towards you, but just because of the way he/she laugh, somehow the sound just tick you off for no reason. Or whatever the person says seems to spark off your temper and you just can't help yourself giving sarcastic comments right after his/her every statement.

I do wonder if I am being too sensitive and have got the whole idea wrong. The thing is, people might not dislike you, but because people might find someone who does not have much to share or talk about, BORING! So they rather talk to people who always have lots of stories to tell as a form of entertainment. :D

Nevertheless, I believe you have the intuition to tell whether someone likes you or not because most people are not good in concealing their feelings. If they don't like you, it's actually pretty easy to tell. I think it is pretty normal that when you don't really like a person, you would do your best to minimize any unnecessary contact and only talk to that person if really have to. All of us can be on either side or both sides.

Bottom line is, we may not really like all the people we know and vice versa. I guess that is OK provided you don't go and start talking bad about people just because you don't like how that person dress or other minute/silly reason. 

What I'm trying to say is, it is fine if you don't like me and you don't want to hang out with me. I respect and accept that. All I ask for is please do not ever imply something negative about me to others that make other to be prejudice against me. Because I can really swear that I have never done this to anyone in my entire life.

Long Forgotten.... Not!

I have not update my blog for a very long time to the point that I almost forgotten I ever have one. :P

My hubby occasionally pop up the question, "Are you still updating your post? If not, why don't you shut it down?".

"No. I don't want to", I replied, "Even if I don't ever update it again I will want to keep it there ( unless Blogspot removes my blog), Coz, it has all the memories and life experiences I have gone through over the years. I would love to read it once in a while".

There were many times I've wanted to login to my blog and start typing away with all the things that happening in my life. But then, I always have this worries at the back of my head, what if some people read it and don't like what I written? Or they may interpret it wrongly and start to judge me negatively?

Oh well, I think too much and worry too much. I should stop this at once.

From now on, I will start writing down my thoughts and experiences in life whenever I feel like it. No more worry about what other people think about me. Because, after all these years, I realized one thing, people who really know you would not easily misinterpret you and judge you, but if people don't like you and don't bother to get to know you, no matter how positive the things you say or do, they will have it twisted and turn into something ugly.

 So here I am. Restarting the engine.

Vrooommmm....Vrooommmm......

Happy New Year 2011

Another year has passed.
This is not the end nor the beginning,
It is the continuation of our lives until our last breath...